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I've been seeing this guy for 4 months now and he's met all my friends and has hung out with them on many occasions. Well, lately they have been telling me that they think he's a bad influence on me and they really do not like him. How am I supposed to react to that? Should I be angry at them and just keep my love life and friends separate?

2006-07-31 03:37:56 · 20 answers · asked by Lynn D 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

Because I tend to drink more now and go out to bars and clubs...I'm more social since I've been with him. I also have a strange feeling that they kinda miss me, I mean 2 of them are married and one is pregnant so I don't go out with them much.

2006-07-31 03:46:58 · update #1

A lil more detail: I'm 23 and I would go out drinking at the clubs and bars with my friends before he came along. Now, I go out on Tuesdays and Wednesdays to the bars or clubs with him b/c that's the only 2 days he has off. So they see me going out drinking during the week and then with them on the weekend and say I'm drinking too much.

2006-07-31 04:00:52 · update #2

20 answers

This is a tough one. It depends. First off the friends you have sound like real friends because if they weren't they wouldn't be concerned about you. You have obviously had your friends a lot longer than this new guy, so give them the benefit of the doubt. Re-evaluate your man. Do your friends have a point? Perhaps being with a bad boy is fun but not in your best interest. If he is not that bad, explain to your friends that you love them but you want to pursue this relationship. Keep girls night out a ritual and see your boy when they aren't around.

2006-07-31 03:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by cialear 2 · 0 0

It doesn't sound to me that they per~say "hate" your boyfriend as much as they "love" you. Take a good look at why they are saying these things. Have you began doing things that you would have not done before meeting this guy. Sometimes people on the outside of a relationship looking in can see signs of an unhealthy relationship before the person on the inside does. Just take an objective look at the situation. It does not sound to me as if these friends just decided not to like the guy for no reason. However, if you are happy with this guy and you don't see what the problem is.... then you will have to deal with the negativity from your friends and do what is right for you. Best of luck to you.

2006-07-31 10:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by geni 3 · 0 0

I know exactly what your going through, i have been dating the same guy now for 6 months. I had 2 really good friends (or i thought) who I use to do everything with until we start dating. They both have said they dont like him because hes taking me away from them and thats so not the truth. i believe when you meet someone, you gotta have time for them as well. And just because I stopped going out to the clubs, doesnt mean our friendship had to end. I am still friends with them, but I want to see what happens with my man and if that means settle'ing down for awhile then I am ready for it. If your friends are TRUE FRIENDS, no matter what choice you make they will stick by you. So good luck!!!!

2006-07-31 10:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by kansasmama 1 · 0 0

No, your friends are telling you these things for a reason. You should listen to them, but you need to reevaluate how you are now and how you were before you were with him. If you see things that your friends are bringing up then you need to figure out if that's how you want to be and if possibly losing your friends over this guy is worth it. In the end good luck.

2006-07-31 10:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by jad26 3 · 0 0

it sounds like hes turned you into a drunk ! I think your friends are just looking out for your better interests! You dont say how old your are so Im assuming your immature and letting him manipulate you . If you never drank that much before then you need to take a serious look at yourself and give a little credit to yoru friends that love you !

2006-07-31 10:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Friends can usually see things that you can't because they are outside of the situation and have an objective viewpoint. Perhaps they are right about him having a bad influence on you?

2006-07-31 10:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 7 · 0 0

There has to be a reason why they don't like him, ask them if they are true friends they will tell you the truth. I think other than that your friends and your love life should always be separate.

2006-07-31 10:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by *Krys* 2 · 0 0

u should trust ur friends and talk 2 them make sure its just not that they miss having u around or that they think u r spending 2 much time with ur bf. ur friends r probably right, so u should trust them. boyfriends come and go but ur friends just want whats best for u they r not trying 2 hurt u

2006-07-31 12:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by xxsoccerstar950xx 2 · 0 0

You shouldn't care what your friends think. If you are happy, they should be happy for you. But ask them why they think that your boi is a bad influence and go from there.

2006-07-31 10:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by melomane 4 · 0 0

stop and ask urself why would ur friends say something like this?! i hate to say this but they r most likely right, its happend 2 me twice, the first time i didnt listen to my friends and it ended up in a disaster he cheated on me w/ who i thought waz my bestfriend. and guess how i found out he waz cheating on me? my friends told me(the true friends) the girl he cheated on me w/ knew a/b it. the second time i listened 2 my friends and i broke up w/ him. later to find out that he waz planning on goin out w/ one of my so called "friends"(the same girl) as much as i hated to admit it they were right a/b him. ur friends noe u best and u like them b-cuz they care a/b u, i highly doubt they would be making this up and its prob. hard 4 them 2 be telling u this but they did b-cuz they care. its ur choice what to do but i noe from experience that its the friends that come through 4 u in the end. "friends are 4-ever, boys are when ever"

2006-07-31 10:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0 0

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