Me and my female friend are hanging out more than i did with my ex. How do i tell her we are more than friends

Question

She is very assertive and everytime i have brought it up she seems to brush it off in one way or another then BAM we are back hanging out 2-3 nights a week. I flirt, she flirts, one of her favorite comebacks when we disagree is better watch it or ill break up with you, or what are you saying -- are you breaking up with me. According to her we also have a "our song". Im seeing other women however dont have too much time with them since a lot of my free time goes to her. im to the point where she needs to shxt or get off the pot.

im thinking of emailing or calling her as that will be less awkward for both of up.... Any way my question is how can i say what needs to be said. I care for her a lot, I know the opposite is true as well. I just cant take this wait and see stuff anymore....
10pts go to whoever can write me what i should write her.

Answer 1

You're not!!

Move on...

Answer 2

Well I'd disagree with you on sending your female friend an e-mail of message. On one of the nights you folks are out together just say to her that you need to have a serious conversation. Sounds to me like your a mature male and thus can relate well to this woman. Ask her what she expects from your relationship and if you can "offically" take it to the next level, and consider one and one partners. If she has already selected a song that she relates to yoru relationship I'm thinking that she wants more than a guy friend also.

So what I'm attempting to say I suppose is just be honest, straightfoward and put all the cards on the table. Best of luck to you whether I gain the ten points or not. When my finance and I met we were both not looking for a relationship also. We talked and got to know each other and finally I suggested that we become partners as I had fallen head over heals for this lady. I knew that she was wild about me also, probably before she was aware of it (fear of relationships and getting hurt again). Today we are truly best friends and it's just funny how things work out. We both also said that we'd never remarry but here we are about to walk down the aisle next May and looking very forward to it.

Again best of luck with your relationship and your honest talk about what direction you appear to be going. Perhaps you can talk either over a coffee or by the side of a nice lake and be in a relaxing atmosphere.

Answer 3

It seems that she is kinda stringing you along. You shouldn't e-mail her - it's too impersonal. Perhaps a phone call - although face to face is best. Tell her that you want to have a girlfriend and there are a few women that you are dating and see if that bothers her. Tell her that of you were together you would stop seeing them at once - but if she wants to be 'just friends' then you will focus your energies somewhere else. Tell her she will still be considered a friend and you would love to do some hanging out with a group of friends - but you'll probably have a date with you. If she just 'doesn't know' than she probably isn't into you like that. Good luck and be brave enough to tell the truth about your feelings to her.

Answer 4

Have you even contemplated holding her hand or kissing her? Does she make you hurt inside? Do you w**k off to her picture? Does she let you sit in her room when she gets changed or showers and doesn't mind you seeing her undressed? If you've done or felt all this, then I should just write to her and tell her straight up.

Something along the lines of "We've been friends for a long time and I've recently felt a stronger attraction to you. I know you may think I'm kinda weird, but I know in my heart that you're the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I feel that you feel the same way about me. I love you more than like you, I want to hold you in my arms and make gentle love to you, I dream about you every night and miss you when you're not around so much it makes my heart hurt."

Otherwise I guess you'll just have to "wait and see" a bit longer

Answer 5

I personally think talking to her in person is the best way to go. Emailing is a no no, because sometimes it can be misread, and you don't want that when it comes to matters of the heart. Make plans to grab dinner with her, take her out and lay it all on the line. Tell her how you feel more for her than you would just a friend. Tell her you feel it is worth giving a shot because the chemistry is there and is strong. Be honest with yourself and her, if she reciprocates then great! If she asks for more time then I suggest you continue to hang out (only if you can handle the waiting), but do not limit yourself to only seeing HER. Keep your options open.

Answer 6

You should write her this:

I think I need a doctor. I need a doctor to tell me what's wrong with me. Or is this normal?

Every time we are together, I get a new picture of you in my mind. These pictures help me make it through the day when I can't be with you.

When someone asks me what I think I'm looking for in a woman, I close my eyes and I see your face. When I'm feeling down or depressed, I close my eyes and I see you again. I get a warm feeling, a feeling of comfort when I see your face.

Every now and then, I sometimes think I smell you and it's embarrising, but I get an erection. I love the way you smell, the way you look, and even the way you sound. I love to hear your voice, sometimes it gives me chills just to hear you talk.

I can't wait to see you again, so I can hold you close and take some more pictures in my mind.

Can I see you tonight? I really want to talk to you!

Answer 7

Tell her that you are interested in taking this relationship to the next level. Ask her how she feels about that. Communication is the best way you'll get a direct answer. I hope your ok with rejection though so be prepared. If she rejects then just remain friends with her and move on. Tell her you have to get over the rejection though and stop seeing as much of her.

Answer 8

well i wont get the 10 points because i will say you should never put anything in writing such as a letter or an email, if its that important that you want her to know how you really feel about her doing it in person is the only right way to go about it. and even if she doesnt want to be a girlfriend its always good to have girls just as friends

Answer 9

i think u should take her out to dinner than sit down with her in the park and tell her how u feel about and make it sweet when u do tell her im a female and i have the same thing going with a male friend of mind that i knew for years and we r really close friends we would do anything for each other so just tell her in a really sweet way.

Answer 10

it is easily no longer all properly. He may no longer be dishonest, or perhaps attempting to cheat, even if it is way irrelevant. it is probable an ego element. even even if he's married, he likes to carry close he can nonetheless be be in contact with former girlfriends. adult males have a demanding time dealing with the actual incontrovertible reality that the race is over. those women probable do not choose something to do with him. to grant him some attitude, tell him you're retaining in contact with all of your former male friends/enthusiasts and be conscious how he reacts to that.

Answer 11

be a man and talk to her face to face. if she's the assertive type she's appreciate that you're not hiding behind a computer screen.

if you really like this girl tell her in a way that she can't brush off, that can't be misunderstood.

this is normal, i have a friend like that, everyone thinks we're dating cause we hang out all the time. he calls be "baby" which just confuses everyone more, lol. but we're just friends. we both like it that way, and if anything changed, well, i'd want to know about it.