The thing is we are both Christians... and she asked me not to tell anyone so I promised I wouldn't but I am starting to regret saying I wouldn't say anything. What do I do?
2006-07-31 03:25:21 · 22 answers · asked by Bailey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
support her in every step of the way!!!!!
the best way of supporting her is having a baby yourself and have it aborted too!!!
2006-07-31 03:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hobo_Hippie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I would suggest that you show her some pictures first. I know that I had some pictures sent to me on abortion that made me feel awful even though I never had one or considered having one. Much of it has to do with age. Depending on her age I would say that she has to understand that you may not agree with her decision as many others will not. This may include family or the father of the child. I would express to her that everyone struggles when they have a child and that having an abortion brings on problems of it's own. Many women fall into depression because of it. Or what happens if afterwards she can't have a child when the time is right for her then she will experience many more problems. Does the father know she is pregnant? I think she may want to ask him about his opinion on the situation and if they don't talk then she should be more careful when she is having sex so she doesn't have his problem again. I myself am a young mother 22 with three children and I've lived in apartments and worked two jobs while my husband and I switched with babysitting. However, now four years later after having my first we own our own business and make about $200,000 a year so as long as you work hard and push yourself with or without children you can still achieve success in life, plus you'll have the joys of your kids by your side.
2006-07-31 03:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Young Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian and an OB/GYN nurse I cannot tell you how to support it. Things will be worse than she thinks if she gets it done. I have seen what it does to women physically and emotionally. Murder is murder rather it's legal or not. You both are sinning for even considering it. I hate to be harsh. I have had 2 children as a teenager , but I turned out fine. It was tough, but God saw me through and I believe I have an even bigger reward for not killing my babies. I was frowned upon and many said I wouldn't make it, but I used it as my motivation. I was a single mother with little help. I say if you want to do an adult act, be an adult and take care of your responsibilities. I can't help you support her. I'm sorry. My heart goes out to the innocent baby who had nothing to do with his parent's decision.
I pray that your friend makes the right decision. 2 wrongs never made a right.
Good luck to you, too. Thanks for being a friend and seeking advice.
2006-07-31 03:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Jack the Navy Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I said on the other question. Support her, you don't have to go with her or anything, just don't take back your promise. Its HER decision and talking her out of it, showing her pics, etc is wrong. Scaring her into carrying a child she doesn't want even if going to adoption can be physically damaging to her and the baby through many forms of depression.
2006-07-31 03:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope this will help.i know its against the Christians faith but as a friend just b there for her cause if she really want to have an abortion she will and I'm sure u don't want her to do anything that will harm her later but just be there for her and talk to her try to have her understand that its not her end of the world that there are people that will be there for her if she wants to truly have the baby ask her again make sure that this is want she really wants and if it is then b there for her that's what a friend is someone who is there no matter what and i hope all works out
2006-07-31 03:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by candy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend means anything to you, you should support her!! Be there to hold her hand no matter what! That is what true friends do for eachother. Just tell her you support her but to be sure that this is what she really wants... Don't make her feel bad about her decision. It is a hard choice to make i'm sure but isnt better than having another unloved baby in the world?
2006-07-31 04:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by jewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree [123 4]. You should not have a a baby and abort it, I'm 100% against abortion because it is killing a baby, God would not give her a baby unless he wanted it to happen. I guess it depends on if you are for or against abortion, maybe you should educate her and then let her choose if she still wants o abort her baby, I would have a baby then give it up for adoption before ever thinking of aborting a baby. Good-Luck and I hope your friend choose's the right choice ;-)
2006-07-31 03:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by txagl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SUPPORT HER DECISION! pray to god she changes her mind. and tell her that she is murdering an innocent baby that she helped make! there are better things to do with the baby..like put it up for adoption..there are lots of nice couples out there who are unable to have kids and would love to raise your friend's baby. and if your friend is in school and she is concerned about people seeing her pregnant than she should do homeschooling this year. dont be mean about it..but try to convince her that an abortion isnt the way good luck.
2006-07-31 03:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she's your friend, doesn't mean you have to agree with or support her decision to have an abortion.
If I were you, I'd pretend that you know nothing about this. Whenever she brings it up, tell her you really don't feel like discussing it, and please do not mention it again. You can support her with all her other problems, but if you're truly against abortion, don't discuss it with her or try to help support her when she mentions it.
2006-07-31 07:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk her out of havn the abortion instead give the baby up 4 adoption but u b the bez friend that u can b by stikn by her decision in which wateva it may b.Show her that u do care a lot bout her.
2006-07-31 03:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by dagirl10149 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true friend, you will not support her in her desire to commit murder. If she was holding a gun to the head of a toddler and was about to pull the trigger, would you say, "I support you no matter what you choose?" Of course not! This situation is no different. If you are the only one who knows about her plans, it is up to you to do what you can to help save the baby. A child's life is at stake.
First of all, show her all the information you can about abortion. Her baby's heart started beating at just three weeks, and abortion not only will kill her baby, it is very dangerous for her as well. Please ask her to look at these sites:
Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Advice on Telling Parents About a Pregnancy:
http://lifehouse.glorifyjesus.com/questions/pregnancy/tellingparents.html
If she claims to be a Christian, she will also want to know what the Bible has to say about abortion:
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-aig/aig-bibleandabortion.html
http://www.crusadeforlife.org/prolife_scriptures.htm
Remind her that the Bible says, "By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. The one who says, 'I have come to know Him,' and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him." (1 John 2:3-4). This is serious stuff. If she does not obey Christ--if she does not respect His commandment, "Thou shall not kill"--then the Bible says she is a liar when it comes to her professed Christianity.
If she sees all this information and her mind is still not changed, then you will need to tell a TRUSTED adult about the situation. The child's life is more important than your friend being upset with you. Make sure that you tell someone who will NOT encourage her to kill her baby. If you need help with this, talk to someone at a crisis pregnancy center. You can find one near you here: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp Or, you can call 1-800-848-LOVE for more advice.
Please keep us posted.
2006-07-31 03:45:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋