My boyfriend and i live together and we've been together for 5 years. But now he is going to college and i don't know if i should trust him. i am very jealous and insecure. We do practically everything together and i'm scared that he might be find someone else.
2006-07-31 03:23:28 · 16 answers · asked by *Krys* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, yes there is a risk that he could find sombody else. However being clingy and insecure is only going to drive him into the arms of sombody else. Women who are secure in themselves are very attractive. If your boyfriend has beeh faithful for 5 years, and you have no real reason to suspsect otherwise? Then I would just try and calm down, how old are you? Could you go to college with him? There are ways to make sure your relationship stays fresh with him. But you can't control his actions, you just have to trust that his faithfulness will continue when he isn't in your line of sight 24/7.
Now this isn't to say that it won't be difficult, it will be, and you have to find ways to make time with him, and to spend time with him, but most of all during that time, and the time you have left to spend together you have to trust him. There is a saying that men are dogs, and by and large it isn't true. Talk to your boyfriend about your fears in a non-confrontational, non-accusitory, open and honest way. And you will i think feel much better. But either way if it isn't with this guy then with sombody else, you HAVE to be more secure otherwise you will set yourself up to fail in every relationship you get into.
Good luck and I hope this helps.
2006-07-31 03:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of all if he hasn't given u any reasons to be insecure or jealous than don't be..
When he goes off to college then time will tell whether or not u should stay or go because there's no need to be insecure and jealous..
If it's meant to be then it will be but again if he changes, and then there r many excuses of why he couldn't do this or that then investigate and if he's not being faithful then move on..
but give him a chance, don't go pushing ur insecurities on him cause then that will only give him a reason to find someone else...
And remember if u realize a distant realtionship is not for u then let him know and move on.. don't stay and be misreable or insecure and jealous because ur happiness does come first...
2006-07-31 10:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have lived together for that long, you would have known each other well!! Trust is the thread that makes the relationships strong and everything is on trust. Suppose he also starts thinking that you are going to ditch him....what will happen?
I don't know whether you have observed--- the lady deer scratches her eyes rubbing it on the sharp tip of the male deer. A small ditch by the male will destroy her eyes!!! Still she has absolute trust on its partner and the partner responds by not moving the horn a vee bit!!!???
2006-07-31 10:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men should be trusted...but you been with your man for 5 years...so you mean to tell me that you cant trust him to go to College...that is kind of weird...if you don't have the trust then you really don't have anything...unless he done something to you in those 5 years and you didn't forget that...but this will let you know if you two should be together...aight....
2006-07-31 10:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be with him 24/7 so your going to have to start trusting him. In love there is always the possibility of being hurt so you'll just have to deal with it. You've been together for 5 years so why worry about it now.
2006-07-31 10:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bone someone else as soon as possible....he is at college, and if he says he ain't looking he is lying....
Best of luck, but don't sit at home thinking about this, get up and out and have some fun yourself...that is what he is doing, and if you love him in a funny way, this is what you would like him to do...
University is about living your new life to the fullest, taking on new experiences...etc., be open, bang away and make sure he knows it...he will come running back to you, with a bit more experience, its alll goooooood
2006-07-31 10:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being together tht long would be tough to be apart! Its going to be hard on you him leaving.The best thing you can do is do lots of things yourself have a good time.Dont think about him and keep your options open ! It s not a matter of trust ! iTS about growing up.If someone has to leave you then you are single at tht point.So get dateing and have fun and if he comes home after college if your still around than u can do your thing again,But let go and get over him.
2006-07-31 10:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him, unless he has given you a reason not to. And talk to him about your feelings and insecurity, if he's worth your while he will understand and try to figure something out.
2006-07-31 10:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are insecure. jealous, insecure people are not attractive.
you need to do yoga to get more confident so he won't find someone better.
2006-07-31 10:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all of them.
2006-07-31 10:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋