I went on a nice date with this really nice guy and we had a great time. He seems like a real gentleman and has everything that I would want in potential mate EXCEPT, he is overweight and I do not find him physically attractive at all! I know that physcial appearance is not the most important thing, however I would like to be SOMEWHAT attracted to the man I am dating. Am I being totally shallow? I know that good men are really hard to find, and thus far, he does seem like a "good man" He tried to kiss me at the end of the date and I actually shuttered out of just pure disinterest. Is this something I can get over for the sake of having a good guy, or should I just count my losses here? What do you think?
2006-07-31 03:20:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on what's important for you in a relationship. Some people need physical attraction to feel for the second party, and you wouldn't say its shallow.
However, you've to look back at your previous relationships and start thinking if looks or a good personality matters to you. How many dates have you been on that brings on a cool looking dude with superb personality? If it is even hard for you to meet anyone like that, then just focus on the guy with the big heart.
It's not also about finding a good man, its finding someone that connects with you, and understands and accepts you for who you are. The soulmate. When you find someone like this you have to grab him babe!
2006-07-31 03:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by winnie_1423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't date someone you're not really attracted to. If he's doing all right with the personality thing, but lacking in the physical appearance department, it's not your fault for not being attracted. Ultimately, you'd be wasting your time and his if you didn't have any real feelings for him to begin with if you dated.
It might seem shallow, but you really can't help the way you feel.
2006-07-31 03:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time period for this sort of situation is asexual nonetheless a lot of a misnomer that maybe. You are what you notice yourself doing gender and sexual orientation sensible while you masturbate. You would possibly pass round this international no longer discovering any individual in any respect sexually exciting or discover each person downright sexually repulsive however that does not imply you would not have a sexual orientation. Sexual free up is quintessential for all mammals so that you need to have some thing you fantasize approximately. I am certain you do not masturbate fantasizing approximately the void of outer house vacuum, you and your sexual goal each being it. You would simply wish to discover your emotions as to why you can not make occur in lifestyles what you fantasize approximately, maybe with a intercourse therapist.
2016-08-28 15:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by stufflebeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a male friend who has expressed interest in dating me several times. He is really great to talk to and we have alot in common. I try to imagine myself dating him, but I am just not attracted. So, I won't go out with him unless my feelings change. It wouldn't be fair to me OR HIM if I was forcing myself to find him attractive.
2006-07-31 03:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no chemistry between you both, it will be very difficult for you both to date, or go out.
2006-07-31 03:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by problemsolver86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks might catch your eye. but the attraction comes from there personality. who they are. but if you have NO attraction physical then I wouldn't pursue it.
2006-07-31 03:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always think about how your not attracted to him no that will cost a problem in your relationship with him
2006-07-31 03:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋