I officialy became his girlfriend, went to his place, it was bad idea I agreed to share the bed.
I was kissing him, he was kissing me all over, but I said "no" when he start to touch me under the clothes.
This repeated 4 times during the whole night, cuz we couldn't have a deep sleep. I think we were so tired after all that. He wasn't touching me at all in the morning, had a good kiss on the lips, and left at noon...felt horrible. Got a cute mail while I was on the train.
So, I mailed this guy this morning how I felt I would have to feel very comfortable to have sex, waiting for his return...
How tough is this rejection for a guy? Could be handled?
2006-07-31 03:15:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make sure he knows that you are not rejecting him. You are just not ready to take that step with him yet. Let him know how much you enjoy the kissing, cuddling etc. If he is a mature man then he will not feel rejected at all. He will know that sex is just not something you are ready for at this point in the relationship. If he does get upset and try to guilt trip you.....Then he isn't worth wasting time on.
2006-07-31 03:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are very deeply hurt whenever they're rejected...whether they like to admit it or not!!! Whenever a female rejects them...in any way...such as for a date, a dance, for a kiss, and even more serious, sex...it leaves it's mark on them. If this guy really cared about you, yeah, he'll care...a lot...but if he was just in it for skin, then he'll just move on to his next target. I know my bf is crushed whenever I say no to sex, so I usually give in and have pity sex....lol But honey, sharing a bed with a guy is ummm, well, giving him hope that there could be a chance for sex...and then turning him down would just frustrate him. My advice, don't share a bed with a guy unless you intend to have sex with him, or he's gay....and even the gay ones you have to watch out for!
2006-07-31 03:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by chickingirl19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure when you agreed to stay over and share the bed that he just ASSumed what came next, as most guys would...unless you discussed differently prior to. I'm sure he will get over it. But if you aren't comfortable enough to have sex with him, I wouldn't recommend putting yourself in the same position again. Some guys wouldn't take no in that situation and you could have been hurt. Be careful.
2006-07-31 03:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy should NEVER have to force himself on anyone and you should NOT allow him to do anything your not comfortable with! If I was involved here, I would definitely want to sit down and discuss where the relationship is heading before we shared a bed again. Even if it was just to sleep.
2006-07-31 03:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection really sucks for a guy.. but don't worry. We always bounce back pretty quick.
2006-07-31 03:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by zeropointe01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt handle the rejection well, end the relationship. You handled rightly.
2006-07-31 03:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by spineminus2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault you didn't want to have sex with him. The way it's handled by guys varies.
2006-07-31 03:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i develop into interior of an identical concern as you, merely pay interest to some angery rap music, hit some stuff, and then enable all of your thoughts die.......it sounds wayyyyy better emo that it actually is, ive actually under no circumstances been better considering that i finished "feeling"......oh yea take an mindset of "**** it" and merely relax and ignore the previous
2016-11-27 01:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing!!!
Don't let him rape you of you beliefs and morals as well - if he can't respect you for who you really are then you shouldn't even be with him!
And if you do the nasty... Just think of all the other girls he must have done it with!
2006-07-31 03:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Chellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea they get it all the time he will be mad but hell b rite bak at it in lyke a day
2006-07-31 03:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋