Would you help him regardless, even if he threatened to expose your secret and ruin your life? Or would you let him suffer? He has done a lot of sh1tty things to you and even tried to blackmail you for drugs and money. Basically, a piece of crap he is.
Is he worth saving? Is your secret worth being exposed?
2006-07-31 03:15:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just to add my own views here - I don't believe in "rescuing" people and I do believe in personal responsibility. On top if it, I really don't like my brother as a person.
2006-07-31 03:31:25 · update #1
Here is one more detail to add - he is currently dating a "user" so the lure of drugs is always there.
Second, he only threatens to spill the beans if I spill the beans on him.
2006-07-31 06:18:20 · update #2
"To thine own self be true". Keep your secret to yourself and let your useless scumbag brother stew in his own soup. He is responsible for the condition he's in, not you.
2006-07-31 03:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by hellzbellz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a drug addict, he will eventually expose your secret anyway. Beat him to the punch. It's a win/win situation for you. You take away his control over you and you rid yourself of the guilt and anxiety that comes with keeping a secret.
It's possible that your secret will hurt someone (I can only assume since I don't know the secret). If that's the case, take the person, or people, who will be affected aside and tell them privately. I'm sure it's not going to be pleasant, but it's best to get some things out in the open.
As for whether or not your brother is worth saving, I have to believe that he is. He is not in control of his life and needs help.
2006-07-31 03:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a dark secret anymore if you let the secret out. Besides, is holding a secret worth more than a human life? Will your dark secret affect the well being and life of your love ones? Only you need to decide but first think of this.....
If you let your brother do what he is doing because of your fear that people will think differently of what it is that you did once, and he ends up dying because of his drugs, who do you think will feel guilty? Who do you think might never forgive him or herself for not telling anyone or helping? You of course. Why let him blackmail you? If you have God in your life, make it right with Him, God forgives. Tell your family if you feel you have too, but, just remember they are not your Judge, God is and He would have already forgiven you. Good Luck
2006-07-31 03:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is family who cares what he knows secrets about you. If you don't get him off the streets and he hasn't paid a drug dealer he could get killed. Its better If you know he has drugs to turn him in you could work with the cops to help him. My s brother does or did stuff like that but I didn't turn him in he just got caught. If your brother does drugs the cruel fact of the matter is the cops probably already know and the other fact is they are waiting for him to get more drugs on him so he can go down. Hope your OK but I would not want to be excessive to his drugs that you would get caught too giving him money for it. Get him help now before he ends up getting shot or in the trashcan. I feel for my half brother but hes got an addiction that I dont need around me. I hope good things for you. Good Luck**
2006-07-31 03:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your secret out on your own and then he has nothing on you. Its alot better than having it tear you up inside worrying when hes gonna tell it. YOur life isnt going so well right now because of it and his hold on you so get it over with and deal with the situation as best you can. Hes not going to go into rehab willingly. You will have to force him or cut him from you life. Are you strong enough for that?
Right now the brother you want to help is lost . Its the drugs taking him over. Hes got to be strong enough to deal with it as well. Maybe you will get your brother back in the end. I hope so.
2006-07-31 03:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your brother no matter how many shitty things he's done. It must hurt you to see him ruin him self with the drugs & everything ( i have a friend like this). You must love him anyway right? If you love him enough than getting him the help he needs should be more important than a secret; he could die if he overdoses or something, or he could go to jail if he gets caught. If this secret ruins your life, than so be it, because family should come first. I wish the best of luck to you :)
2006-07-31 03:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by ghilga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your secret is one of the reason where your brother gets money to buy drugs ... hes blackmailing you... your secret is basically killing both of you ... try sending your secret to postsecrets... maybe that'll ease it down a bit... seriously... get someone to help your brother... if he squells on you..well obvoiusly you can just say that its not true. hes an addist so whatever he's blahbin about cannot be depended.. hes just saying that coz hes angry at me for exposing him and getting some help for him blah blah blah...secret safe and your brother gets help... just get ready with your alibi after he comes out of rehab... coz maybe he'll still insist about your secret, you cannot use that "hes' an addict thing" then again you can always say... that's the side effect.
BUT.... if you don't like your brother then just help him kill himself really fast before he becomes irritatingly distructive, Just be sure that after, you won't be guilty about it... that you can live your life normally as if you didn't have anything to do with his death... and that helping in killing him would add to your big secret that your trying to hide in the first place and the reason maybe y you hate your brother.
2006-07-31 03:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by little_devil501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you start by getting all family members (or whomever was involved) together and tell them your secret so that it is no longer a deep "dark" secret, and it is out in the open. Then you won't have anything to fear from him "exposing" you, it'll be out in the open, and healing can start to begin from telling your part of the story. Once the healing has begun, get him the help he needs. Then if he tries to "expose" you, what's he going to do, tell the same story that is already out?
2006-07-31 03:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by colleend01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your secret is something like you're a child molester, or a serial killer, NO secret is so terrible that you will not overcome it eventually. Therefore, the answer to your question is: Yes, you help your brother get his life back on track and tell him to shove his "dirty little secret telling." Besides, if anyone gets wind of your secret, you can always pass it off as the ravings of a drug-influenced lunatic...that's why you're getting him into rehab! Problem averted.
2006-07-31 03:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your BROTHER. Closest family member besides your parents, don't be selfish and let that one perosnal secret stop you form helping him. Be the better person and not jus tbecause he does things to you to get to drugs abandon him. he is an addict, they doo things without thinking and are stupid.
Screw your secret, don't be selfish and help him, along with your parents. he will hate you for a while for sure, but its just like when your parents want the best for oyu and you just get pissed at th emoment but in the long run you know its for the best.
nesides you are a hottie and hotties always do the right thing....
2006-07-31 03:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really how bad can ur secret be? If he does a lot of drugs is everyone going to believe him or you? If you really love him and you should he is ur brother, you should get him some help! Think about how he was before the drugs.....do you want him to end up dead? Just don't want you to regret it later. Tell ur parents or someone to help you! Good luck!
2006-07-31 03:22:29 · answer #11 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋