What should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I got into an arguement (One of many) on Thursday, and he packed all of his stuff up and left. That night he called to make sure I wasn't to upset, because I just got surgery, and we talked and he told me he didn't think we should be together right now. I respect that. Friday I woke up and drove to his sisters house where he went to stay, so that I could ask if he could sign me off of the lease since I was going to be the one to move. Before I left we ended up agreeing to be friends working towards getting back together, taking it slow, and letting him situate all of the problems he has. Saturday we stayed at the apartment together and ended up talking and he ended up saying he wanted me as his girlfriend still. Last night we got into an arguement again, because I got mad, because he was supposed to stay with me last night agreed to be there at a certain time and was very late. I ended up telling him that I thought that maybe we should still be friends and take

it day by day. The bad thing is, is that we do this all of the time, leave or say these things and then change our minds. So this is what I wan't to know....should I stick with it this time and let the relationship go and if we become friends in the future, let whatever happen, but part ways for now, or should I tell him sorry move out of the apartment still, and try to be with him, even though this might/probably will happen again? Sorry it was so long, it's just I am torn between my mind and my heart?

Answer 1

You guys seem to have on going problems. How long have these arguments been lasting? In this case, I think It'd be best to part your ways for awhile...maybe try to stay friends. But it sounds like you two need a vacation away from eachother. Go your seperate ways and if you're meant to be together, you''ll hook up in the end. If not, friendship could always be better. Just follow what your heart feels is best. Take time out of your relationship and stressful life to find peace at your heart and see if you can picture yourself with him for the rest of your life and do you see yourselves constantly fighting? Or can you see it worked out and be a happy one? Whatever your emotions are most pulling you towards-just foloow your gut feeling. But definately take some time out of life, vacationing or spending time relaxed and thinking where you want your future to be. Eventually your heart will give you the answer. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

This sounds like a very difficult relationship and I cant see a good outcome, in fact I have had a similar problem relationship myself and, to be frank, I was glad it finished, painful as it was at the time.

The difficulty is that once you start using the threat of leaving then this threat will always be there and keep being used over and over because it got a reaction.

I am sorry but I cannot think of a good resolution for you and there will be less long term pain for you both to just cut this cancer out now, its not going to heal.

For you, take some time to be at peace and don't whatever you do start something on the rebound. Some self help books might be good, if you haven't read Men are from mars, try and read that, it will show you how to understand and not react.

I think there is also a book by the same author - John Grey - on relationships.

Answer 3

Let it go sister. Let it go.

You cannot stay apart because being alone and breaking the habit is difficult.

It doesn't look good at all. I mean if you were talking about getting into fights and not speaking for a few hours that's one thing but you guys are moving in and out of legal commitments.

Time to lock the door and stop sleeping with him. Talk. That's fine but do it on the phone if need be. Ya need some space.

Answer 4

If you know this is going to keep happening then I wouldn't go back out with him maybe you could try to be friends but then he might keep trying to get you to be his girlfriend. I really strongly feel you shouldn't stay with him. Your problems together will just keep getting worse. After a 3 or 4 months are over maybe you guys could start again buy I think you just need some time apart.

Answer 5

Both of you guys need a time-out. That means away from each other so that you can think things through. Don't see each other for anything. Come together and talk about how long you will be away from each other and when to meet up. You guys need to talk and see what you want from each other and come to an understanding. Sorry for being so blunt but you guys are not communicating with one another. You are just assuming that he should know everything. Well you guys are human and it is normal to lash out when the other person is not getting you. So, sit down and talk about what you want from the relationship and most importantly from each other. best of luck amigo

Answer 6

I think he got mental problems, bi-polar disorder. One day he can be the sweetest guy but the next, a jerk. It's like a roller coaster and you never know when is the next argument going to arrive. If what you are saying is true and the problem is with your boyfriend, I guess you should help him seek professional help to deal with this problem. However, if the problem is with you and you are just having one of those PMS stage, then you should take the time to reevaluate your problems. In all, if you take time off, most likely you will not be together anymore and remain friends. If you think the relationship is worth saving, seek professional help. Don't try to diagnose the problem yourself. You will be running in circles.

Answer 7

I was in a relationship exactly like this. We thought we could work it out so we kept seeing each other and sleeping with each other. We were both sick and tired of the arguing but neither one of us would stop. Then one day my cousins' friend came down for spring break and we got along great. To make a long story short, we ended up getting together and are engaged. The bottom line is, it is nice to have someone there for you whenever you want them, but, sooner or later, one of you will find someone that will treat you like you want to be treated, you will get along great, and you will end up being with them instead of the one you are with now.

Answer 8

Girl leave him, neither of you should be living together get your name off that lease! The other thing is very ofter we get caught up in the love we once had type deal which makes it hard to break up because we are afraid of the unknown. Don't be afraid to break up time heals all wounds and before you know it you'll be like man I was in a relationship with a clown!

Answer 9

I'm sure that you love this guy in some way, but this is not a very healthy relationship. You can't keep putting yourself through this stress. Maybe you both need to experience more of life, and figure life out before moving on.

Answer 10

All the back and forth is ridiculous. I think you should separate and each of you take the time to see what you want from the other and more importantly...take the time to re-evaluate yourselves and see if you should give it another try or go your separate ways for good.