Temper tantrums?

Question

My daughter is 2 yrs old;she has a bad temper and she bites and shouts during that rage.Any suggestions/advise as to how i can control or help her out of this.Thanks

Answer 1

i agree with bubblez ignore her, i have a daughter around the same age and when she has a tantrum i just let her get on with it as long as she isnt in any danger or hurting anyone else,then after she s done havin a tantrum i go and give her a big cuddle to reassure her and make her feel secure, its all for attention, you see toddlers are really egocentric that is they think the world revolves around them and they have to have everything right now thats where you come in because you have to teach them that they cant have everything when they want it.

Answer 2

When she's having her tantrum make sure she's safe & not likely to hurt herself & then make it look like you're ignoring her & especially her tantrum, it will eventually subside & when it does you can tell her why her behaviour was wrong & give her a hug so she knows she is still loved. As soon as she realises throwing a tantrum does not get her what she wants & it doesn't get her any attention either she will stop altho it may be a gradual stopping.

My 3 yr old used to throw tantrums in the supermarket all the time when I said "no" to anything, I used to carry a magazine or book & when he started I would just look at him and say "tell me when you have finished being silly & we can finish the shopping & go do something more fun" I then sat down on the floor next to him & pretended to read, once he saw I was not giving him any attention and that "no" was still "no" even after all his screaming he would get tearful & then all it takes is a quick explanation of why that behaviour is naughty & that I loved him & off we went to finish the shopping quite happily.

Of course the problem with this approach is the nosy old bats who interfere with "I'll buy him some sweets" or try to make him laugh etc if they kept their noses out this approach would work a lot quicker.

Answer 3

WHAT!? She's 2, she should have already learned that tantrums were unacceptable.

Ways To Handle The Problem

1) Give Her A Taste Of Her Own Medicine-
Since she likes to bite, hand her a sour or spicy piece of food and tell her to bite it and eat it, she probably won't like the taste and will stop biting.

2) When She Bites-
If and When she bites, take a belt to her rear end, if she bites a child at daycare/school, that wold be very bad and dangerous, spank her bottom if she bites.

3) When She Shouts-
Get down to her level and look at her and say "SHOUTING IS INNAPROPRIATE IN THE HOUSE YOUNG LADY". Be firm but don't yell, because if you do, it will not teach her anything.

4) When She Stops Her Rage-
Talk to her and tell her that you don't approve of what she did and if it hapens again (name a punishment).

5) Reinforcement-
Be sure everytime she does the crime, the punishment it the same and that you slowly get stricter.

Good-Luck, Tell Us How It Goes!

Answer 4

Remove her from the situation, put her in a quiet room that has been child proofed,and tell her that she can come out when she is under control and is willing to say she's sorry. And then follow through. The first time will be a battle of wills. Be prepared to stand outside that door for 1/2 hour the first time. Once she knows you mean business, it will be easier. And it will get easier every time.

The point is to help her learn to control her temper, not to punish her. She is reacting to her feelings in the only way she knows how.

What ever you do, don't give in to her demands. That is just reinforcing bad behavior.

Answer 5

Yep, ignore it if possible. Many times when my daughter has gotten mad, she'll holler and when I look at her she stops, then does it again the second I turn back around. So you know its just an attention thing.

Other than that, the only thing you can really TRY to do is distract her with something else, but that doesn't usually work while they are throwing a tantrum. It works better either before or after.

Answer 6

Its all your fault, You probably didn't give that baby enough attention when she needed it the most as a toddler and now you reap what you create and that child is an image of what you have done and what didn't do. basically, sorry Mothers have bad behavior in children. My son was so loving people offered to baby sit and that was a direct hit to me and my wife to let us know we did what we were suppose to do in raising a baby into this world. IF you fail you will reap your prize in your child and his or her attitude is a direct reflection of your negligence. The only other problem would be illness in the child and again it is your responsibility to Mother that child at your best. My guess is you screwed up and don't have any answers to solve what you caused. Terrible two's?????never heard of it......My son was an absolute adorable baby and young boy because we dumped everything in to that child to insure that he would grow up a happy child and it paid off. He's in College now!! DO YOUR JOB AND DO IT WELL!!!

Answer 7

my 2 year old daughter is the same i find the naughty step helps it takes them away from the situation it gives them time to carm down only leave her there 4 two mins then go back to her explain why u put her there and then ask her 2 say sorry after that move on give her a cuddle and take her back in to the room

Answer 8

make a naughty area put her there for 2mins [1 MIN FOR EACH YEAR OF HER LIFE] then tell her very firmly you will not put up with this behaviour. Don't shout at her because then you are only showing her bad behaviour , it may take a few trys but it will work . you could also make a reward chart give stars for good behaviour when get say 10 a small reward but lose stars for bad behaviour

Answer 9

I spanked my children when they threw a tantrum. Contary to posted opinions, they each threw one tantrum and never did it again. It did help. But I accept this is an old fashioned way and we are looking for alternative methods to discipline.
I don't like the sound of throwing water in a child's face. I think that is cruel. I cannot believe that any health advisor would recommend that. Please discuss it with your health visitor or clinic.

Answer 10

I am in the same position. What I have found that is working is when she starts into one of her fits, I just pick her up if she is the middle of the room and put her to the side or in her own room. I tell her that if she wants to pitch a fit she can but that no one else wants to see it. I have found she stops as soon as I leave the room.
The fits are beginning to happen less and less often.