What if your life seems good, but is not? I know I should be happy, because I have it better that most, but I did something to my sister that is onforgiveble, and I really wanne make it better again. I don't know where to start, she is the best sister in the word, and I wanne let her know that I really love her, but the mistake I made in the past, keeps haunting me! I hope someone can help me, I feel so damn powerless, and that is a feeling I really never knew I could feel! Help me please!!!!!
2006-07-31 02:07:14 · 28 answers · asked by DeeDee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you should show her that you are a changed and reformed individual. Instead of worrying about how she feels about yoube extra kidn but not fake, dont sit and sulk, do soemthing about it.
Did you sleep with her husband or something?
2006-07-31 02:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by pretty_lesbiian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello how are you? I hope you feel a little better today.
#1 I asked God for forgiveness for you and he has forgiven you already. I find when we ask God to forgive us he shower us with peace in our mind that I can not even explaine. It feels like the world is lifted off of your shoulders. Yes the reality of the mistake we committed surface when ever we see the person or people our mistake effected. That's normal and it's real. I don't beleive that you did what you did dalibertly, on purpose or intentionaly. You said that your sister is the best sister in the world and I know just were you are coming from. If your sister loves you as much as you love her then what you did can be forgiven, it's just going to take time to rebuild your relationship. Sometimes the person we effected just need time to think everything over and learn how to trust again. I know how you must feel in the mean time but guess what, this is the process when ever any of us hurt or do something we regret to someone we love so much. I encourage you to stay strong and just know that everything will get better. In the mean time don't worry and stress because you can not do anything about the situation. And trust me your sister know's you love her!!!!
2006-07-31 09:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason it seems to continue to haunt you is because you wont let it go. What happened yesterday or before then already happened and there is nothing in the world you can do to change it except learn from it and try never to make the same mistake again. Sisters do stupid stuff to one another all the time and if she is the most wonderful sister in the world like you said she will forgive you. The only thing that really could be unforgiveable would be if you would of killed her because then she wouldnt be here to forgive you any thing else time heals all. You obviously realized that what ever it was that you did was wrong and I am sure she sees that so let it go and just try to be the best sister in the world to her like she is to you.
2006-07-31 09:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes in life, this is how we learn. You didn't state what you did so, I really do not know how to advise you except..How I see it is, you have two ways to go.. I truly believe that "honesty is the best policy" and if you truly love your sister as you say, you will have to tell her what it was that was so unforgiveable. Suffer the consequences of your actions..She may be angry at first; but, if you have a solid sibling relationship, she will forgive you and still love you...after all this is how it is with sisters..Alternately, if you feel that this secret will hurt your sister so much she could never forgive you; then some things are better left unsaid. Is it your own conscience that seeks relief? Forgive yourself and move on...
2006-07-31 09:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Artemis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you done to your sister she will love you always tho sometimes it mighten feel that way. if your riddled with guilt speak to her tell her how you feel and what a jerk you were. Let her know that you are now matured and wish to try and make emends for your wrong doings. Maybe you should also consider counsilling its always better to get your problems out in the open. Life is what you make it if you want to be depressed all the time go ahead, or you can get your act together and enjoy life be happy. Just let your sister know you love her and your there if she needs you.
2006-07-31 09:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, what you wrote is a very good start you need to tell her these things, about your feelings toward her and that you are sorry for what you did there is no way to change the past. too continue worry about will not change it. the past just continues to haunt you! ou will always feel powerless unless you forgive yourself and her for her reaction. It doesn't matter even if you slept with her man, its all forgivable just ask you will not obtain peace of mind until you reach out and take it.
2006-07-31 10:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone really loves you (and I am sure your sister does) they will forgive you even if it is a HUGE mistake. What I would do is see if you can speak with your sister, tell her you are Very sorry and that if you can you want to make it better. From there it is on her. She probably will tell you not to worry about it and that she forgives you. Family sticks together! (I hope this helps)
2006-07-31 09:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by wickedfairymaleficent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is forgivable. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but He is the answer to anything and everything. Don't allow any mistake to burden you like that, because you'll never move on from your past. All I can suggest is that you talk to your sister, be completly honest, apologize, and try to make it better. the truth will set you free :)
2006-07-31 09:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by MELLO26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Pray and God will mend the relationship with you and your sister!!! First you have to apologize and let her know that you are deeply sorry for whatever transpired between the two of you!!!! She may be upset at first but in the end she will forgive you because blood is always thicker than water!!!! best wishes
2006-07-31 09:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't told her what you did, start by telling her or this guilt you're feeling won't get any better.
If she knows what you did, if you were honest and sincere in your apology to her and are TRULY sorry, it's time to forgive yourself and get on with you life.
There are things in life that we can't take back, no matter how much we'd like to. All we can hope for is to learn from experience so we never do it again... and move on.
2006-07-31 09:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to forgive yourself and be honest with your sister. After you come clean with her you will no longer have these feeling of self loathing. You need to look deep within yourself and ask for guidance from within. Once you are honest with your sister all will fall into place.
If she is a great sister like you claim, she will forgive you. You need to trust in your sisterly bond and make things right.
2006-07-31 09:12:35 · answer #11 · answered by Sherri H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋