Ladies. I need some help.?

Question

I met a beautiful lady who is a single mom. The "father" of the child split when he found out she was pregnant. Since then she has dated the usual pool of jerks and shitheads. We have spoken fairly often and we seem to get along well. I want to date her, but she keeps asking "What do you see in me?" and she always puts herself down. How can I make her see that she is beautiful and deserves someone that will love and respect her?

Answer 1

You have to help her take that leap of faith and make the ultimate gesture. Reach out to her and tell her exactly how you feel. It sounds like she has been through so much already and may not realize that she deserves a wonderful man like yourself. So show her that she does!! Good Luck

Answer 2

This also happened to me except he split after the baby was born. what do you see in me? really just means, why me? make her feel like she is the only woman on this planet and you will have answered her question. but be careful, make sure that this is what you really want.she seems as if she doesn't want to be hurt again. and if your not sure you will probably do some real damage for the next charming Young man that might want a chance with her.just be yourself.you sound like a great guy with a heart and plenty of since, so keep asking women for the solution when ever you have a problem. even if its just with a friend. you'll almost always get the right answer. you see do to popular opinion, we have half the money and all the p---y, and we do rule the world. (smile) good luck

Answer 3

You sound like a good guy, she seems to have self esteem problems that may cause some problems in your relationship. When she asks you what you see in her, I think you should go with things that she doesn't see in herself i.e. don't say things like you are beautiful at first tell her she is intelligent and ambitious...(if those are truly her characteristics) through constant reassurance and persistance you may just help her to see her true value. Of course every woman loves to hear that they are beautiful, sexy,attractive and even Hott. But we often hear these shallow observences of our beauty and not our intellect. So try these things...Remember dealing with someone with low self worth is not going to be easy only take on this relationship if you want to see it all the way through!!!


GoooooooD Luck

Answer 4

Her self confidence is shot to hell because of the jerks she has dated in the past have crushed that for her.Luckily you are there to pick up the pieces All you have to do is treat her well let her see how beautiful she really is.It will probaly take time for that.Dont change be the way that you have been.Be there for her.And tell her exactly how you feel about her.And tell her why you feel the way you do wether its because shes pretty,smart,loyal whatever the reasons are.Be patient and understanding it may take her a while for it to sink in and understand just because the guys in her past have used and abused her.I hope everything works out for u guys.

Answer 5

dont answer her directly when she asks what you see in her. just tell her tat you are not sure and tat you are madly attracted to her. whenever she starts putting herself down change the topic immediately(away from herself). compliment her now and then with all your heart. if she does something really good, praise her for that act right then so that it will make a great impact. a bit of exaguration could also work. tell her she looks beautiful atleast once a day when she leasts expects it. say tat sincerely so that it will register inside her. dont try too hard to make her realise her worth for tat may send a false note. do things gradually.

Answer 6

I am also a single mother. My daughter's father also split. I think she just needs a little tender loving care. And, patience. Remember you cant change a persons feelings overnight. Plus, she is probably scared that when times get tough, you will run to. So, tell her you will always be there.

Answer 7

All she needs is re-assurance. Maybe since she has dated a lot of jerks and a**holes in the past maybe they always put her down. Just keep reassuring her that she is unique and beautiful in her own special way.

Answer 8

You're a sweet person. And she's been used and discarded. It takes time to heal from such mistreatments. What she needs right now is someone who can be there for her and understand, a true friend. Perhaps you shouldn't pressure her but just reassure her that you're there for her when she needs someone. If she's really nice and don't use your friendship to her favor only, you might gain her love. Just don't force it especially now when she's not ready to fall in love again. Takes time to trust someone again.

Answer 9

obvisiouly she has a low self esteem, first I would like to thank you for be a great guy, alot of guy would have taken advantage of her situation.

you can start by compliment and being supportive, listening. sending her cards or flowers even take her to dinner or take her and her kid to a park and prepare a nice lunch for them. that is even cheaper and you will knock her off her feet. just make her feel appreciated. It does take much to make a women feel special. This what a lot of men don't get!!! alll women love diamond, etc but it is the little things you do that it very much appreciated and the time you spend. she just needs a sincere LOVE.

Good Luck,

Your Great.

Answer 10

What DO you see in her? Make a list of all the reasons you think she's fab, and tell her!
Find out what she hates so much about herself, and prove it's wrong!

I think that she's feeling down because her ex dumped her. He probably didn't let her down easily, either. He's been immature, and try to make her realise it's not her that's the problem, it's HIM.