my b/f and I have been together for 2.5 yrs, and living together for 2 yrs. we used to be intimate at least 3 times a week. And now I'm lucky if I get it twice a month. He says he loves me but never seems to show it. I've tried dressing sexy for him, and even shower him with gifts, but nothing seems to work. Do you think he's getting it from someone else??
2006-07-31 01:43:29 · 22 answers · asked by vicci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a possibility that he is having an affair or that he is too tired, or lost interest. if he wont talk to you about it then you either have to realize this is your future or leave him. hopefully he will seek some medical help if its a medical issue and it will all work out for you both. good luck.
2006-07-31 01:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, your mans having a affair, sorry to tell you point blank what you probably already feel inside. Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault and it's not anything you've done. Men always think the grass is greener on the otherside. He'll be sorry later, and then you can laugh about it. I know that it hurts right now. The best thing would be to either leave him or have him move out. Start hanging out with friends that you've probably havn't seen in awhile. You need time to get over him, even though it will that time, you will get over him and find a man that love you 100%, you desire no less. Good Luck..
2006-07-31 01:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we guys are strange. I'm no doctor or anything, but I think guys tend to go through 'phases'. Sometimes we want sex 24/7...it's all we can think about, like literally. It's like some kind of bizzare torturing voice in the back of our head screaming 'get some, get some or you're gonna die! and you'll die without getting some!'
And then other times we don't really pay any attention to sex or women at all. we get distracted by something else...work....play...stuff we want to do or things we feel are important...and the sex drive dies away a bit. It'll come back later, trust me...probably to the point where you get tired of his constant demands for sex every half an hour. I think it's possibly tied to a primitive instinct...something like heat, maybe.
Here's what I would want to know though. Is it ONLY his sex drive that has changed? if it's just that, then maybe he's either having issues like I described above, or there's some kind of really deep personal issue he's afraid to tell you about. But if the issue is that he's changed in other ways, not paying attention to you, seems nervous, won't talk like he used to, etc. that may be where you need to stop worrying. Sex drives come and go....but how he treats you is what really speaks of whether or not he's still into the relationship.
My suggestion would be to confront him. Tell him you miss how things used to be and you want to know why they changed, and if they can go back to what you liked.communication will solve 99.9% of all relationship problems, including the sexual ones.
2006-07-31 01:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by yehoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something certainly has him distracted. You should try to discuss it with him. Let him know how you feel. If he gets angry, you should be worried and consider moving on. Lack of communication is the death of the relationship. Don't try to force what is not working. Stop showering him with gifts because it implies that you are buying him and you are still getting a low return on your investment. If he doesn't want you accept it.
2006-07-31 01:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two ways to find out
1 - falaw him & see what his doing when his not with you
2 - Ask him directly why is he pushing you away?
& i prefer the 2 one but still i have a third one
3 - i make him talk befor i cut him into slices but this is not a good one cuz you'll know the truth but he'll not be around...!
2006-07-31 01:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Yagami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vicci...I am sorry to say this but he prolly is!! 3 times per week is considered a healthy appetite. You don't go from four course meal to a lean cuisine and be satisfied. I suggest he is snacking somewhere.
But, I think you already know this answer. Can you account for him most of the time. I mean you don't want to be spying or be a human GPS but is there unexplained time where he is unaccounted for?
2006-07-31 01:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling I went though the same thing with a gf I use to go with. It went from every night, to once a week and then every other month. I always wonder was the problem was. Still wondering.
I hope this help.
2006-07-31 01:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by henbakjjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of guy your man is. Perhaps things have fell into to much of a routine, If you can try going on a trip or vacation together to get away from your regular lives. If your guy is someone that you think might cheat on you then why are you even with him?
2006-07-31 01:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by shycountryboy85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving gift. Start ignoring him. Talk to other boys in front of him, make him jealous. Continue like this for 1 month. Everything will be alright.
2006-07-31 01:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by jayakanth_p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st don't blam your self it is very normal for guys to feel this way after a long period of time but this is very odd that he just don't want to do it .. I do think that he is cheating .... What are the odds that he isn't . But first look at all the clues , coming home late , don't answer your calls, all that stuff then you will no for sure .
2006-07-31 01:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Shawnee_ Bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋