Dad3 and me had a midweek break to Bexhill cos he's always been interested in architecture on TV and wanted to see the De La Warr building designed by some German musician. So he's seen it and we've been in it and a had a cup of tea in it. But we fell out because I couldn't think of anything to say about it and he wanted to discuss it. So the next two days were silence. Isn't it enough that I went with him?
2006-07-31 00:48:57 · 21 answers · asked by Harriet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I call him Dad3 because of the children, Nigel not, is Dad2's and the two girls are Dad3's. Sorry to confuse.
2006-07-31 01:05:32 · update #1
well it should of been enough, whats his problem its your fathers interest not yours. it was good of you to go, i wouldn't bother the next time
2006-07-31 00:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥fluffykins_69♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your dad why he felt the need to fall out over this? I am sure you have many interests that he could not hold a genuine conversation with you about. I don't know your age but ask if he would have been willing to come with you to a George Michael concert or McFly or whoever you are interested in, I am sure the answer would have been no. Explain how you feel, be the mature one and say you would be willing to go on another visit and by going you may learn what he finds interesting and can comment on it.
2006-07-31 00:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by spartan74uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still flippin confused....... but yes I think it was good of you to go with him even though you have no interest in architecture. He sounds like a selfish person. I can never understand how people can stop talking to each other for more than an hour over some argument. Tell him to stop sulking like a 3 year old and grow up.
2006-07-31 01:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. He expected you to find this as enjoyable as it was to him - and be intereactive with him about the experience. Perhaps it wasn't something you found all that interesting, thus a lull in the conversation.
If that is the case, apologize to him and let him know the De La Warr building was just not your cup of tea....
2006-07-31 00:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find some common ground for both of you to enjoy together. Thankfully my Dad and I both love aircraft so we always have a shared interest. Just explain to your Dad that you are not really an architecture person but admire for having such an interest.
2006-07-31 00:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone is really interested in something they like to discuss it with someone else, in hindsight it may have been better if someone else who has a similar interest to him had gone with him, had he been able to discuss it with you it would have added to the enjoyment of his break
think of something you are interested in if you went to see a show exhibition etc on this subject wouldnt you rather be ablwe to discuss it afterwards the good points bad points things that surprised you you etc
maybe you should try talking to your dad and explain that you took him/went with him as you knew he was interested in it but you do not share the same interest explain that you wanted to do something for him to please him
it may be an idea if you you would like to go away with him again to find something you are both interested in or even something niether of you have done/experienced before then you would both have something to dicuss with each other afterwards and you would have a shared experience that hopefully you would both enjoy
go and talk to your dad tell him how you feel and let him tell you how he feels
hope it all goes well this does not sound like something worth falling out over
good luck
2006-07-31 01:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by mumoftheyear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest the fact you went should be enough for him. You dont have to have the same interests as him! He is acting very immaturely.Imagine if you took him shopping, do you think he would have anything to say about the great top you want!!!
2006-07-31 00:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by ange1magik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harriet I remember you asking a similar meaningless question - you must have lots of money or your family does - try not to be so insular - there is a world out there - better still try doing something without dad3 - dad3 ? How many dads have you got ? Do you live in a mormon household or something ?
2006-07-31 00:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by beiterspace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your third dad? Don't pretend to be interested in things you aren't interested in. Don't be rude. But don't go to see buildings if you don't think much of them. There are all kinds of fanatics that get easily insulted if you don't venerate their particular passion, and we may be fanatics in our own right.
It's not enough that you went with him. By your sheer indifference you probably spoilt it for him. That's his point of view. Yours is as stated.
Tea always works miracles at such stages.
2006-07-31 00:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want their companion to have the same interests they have, and there is nothing wrong with that. Can you make a comment at all about the design, structure, deco. anything to show a little interest?
2006-07-31 00:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think he should be a bit more understanding. I get disappointed sometimes that my teenage daughter isn't interested in things I'm interested in, but I have to accept that she's a different person.
2006-07-31 00:52:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋