My friend has this bf of 3 years but cheated on him once about a year and some months aback. Unfortunately she never told him because he always told her that if she does anything stupid he will leave her and this she doesn't want. She only cheated on him because they were mad at each other and broke things off for a while. However, he made a confession to her last week that he had cheated on her. She now, is feeling guilty and would like to know if she should tell him the truth..... Can anyone with experience please help???????
2006-07-31 00:36:27 · 15 answers · asked by thicksauce 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she loves him then yea she needs to tell him. they both made mistakes if the relationship is ever going to make it they need a clean slate.
besides how long can she keep feeling guilty before it affects the relationship.
2006-07-31 00:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by jesse james 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES first hand i had a bf for 21/2 years while we were new he got pulled over and taken to jail for about 2months so i figure im not waitin i will just have relations with someone else and he kinda told me not to wait so i didnt when he came home he asked if any one had done anything with me because if they had he would kick there butt and leave me so i said no i was like huh though and so i never told him and a couple of weeks ago i found out he had cheated on me just before he went in and so know i have to tell him just so there are no skeletons in the closet and so i have a free soul from the lies so go ahead and telll him if its meant to be it will work out with the two of you and if not theres plenty more fish in the sea!!
2006-07-31 07:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell him even if things may turn for the worst. He was able to tell her the truth about what he done and that shows he has trust in her to be able to forgive her. If there is no trust then there is no relationship.
I cheated once on my current boyfriend for 2 years with his best friend. At the time, my feelings sort of shifted but during that one kiss I could only see my boyfriend.
The guilt really eats at you and if you tell the guy to late in time maybeb he won't even try to forgive what happened.
2006-07-31 07:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by poetic1459 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the current situation... I suppose if he chated on her then she could tell him that she has cheated on him. It was because they were mad at each other, and if things are going well between them now, then they may discuss it, and probably also discuss if there's anything that they miss from their relationship. I think if she cannot live with this feeling of guilt then... well, probably she should talk to him about it. His reaction may vary however, so be very careful if she decides so.
2006-07-31 07:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Peter S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to her, but she should think about every detail of the conversation before talking about it. Can she deal with knowing and not telling? If not just tell him if he leaves then it wasn't meant to be and trust me she will move on. It hurt bigger than crap but all gets over the pain. Knowing he cheated should help the conversation a bit but you never know. Good luck.
2006-07-31 08:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she should. if she doesnt some one else will and that would just make things worse. i have been there and the truth is easier from the guilty party then to hear it from others. if they really do love each other things may work out. but cheating can make you not trust your partner as much.
2006-07-31 07:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by been there done that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 2 wrongs do not make a right. I think it is perfect timiong to tell the truth. It is like the doors have been opened. If he loves her he will be willing to talk it out. Good luck
2006-07-31 07:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by SADGIRLOH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as this will only make him feel insecure and end the relationship. Males tend to make irrational decisions. So I would say that she has to forget about being faithful and never tell him. That is if she still wants to be with this guy.
2006-07-31 07:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they were broke up at the time it is NOT cheating! She should just keep quiet, he maybe just trying to get her to spill her guts. He may have a suspicion that she did and he maybe testing to see if she will admit to anything.
2006-07-31 07:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't say anything. Telling him may make her feel better but will only put the guilt on him and make him feel bad. If she wants to keep him, she'll keep her mouth shut.
2006-07-31 07:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋