i was engaged to a 29 year old guy for 3 months. he cheated on me several times and lied about it. i caught him high one night and he ended up telling about the other girls. i despise drugs because of their bad effects on people. he knew this b4 we got together. i gave him another chance and he kept doing drugs and lying. right after we broke up he had his new 17 year old girlfriend over and made out with her in front of me. i cried myself to sleep that night cause i still loved him. what would you have done???
2006-07-31 00:35:47 · 30 answers · asked by cowboyskid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-31 01:03:38 · update #1
Well, never trust a druggy who you know is a liar, for one. I'd take the experience and learn from it. Also I'd tell everyone you left him because you found out he HAD herpies, but luckily you didn't get it because you suspected him of cheating. Ruin his social life. hahahaha. I had an ex invite a lil slut to my house and I told her that. She never called him again, and he had to leave town. Revenge is ugly but it's pretty sweet. Don't kill him, it's so not worth it. And I know it's hard but don't even care about the guy, because there is someone out there who is good enough for you to care about and you shouldn't waste your time. Another lesson learned, don't give people second chances so easily. Which is also hard. If they mess up, then they're messed up, and just walk away, save your heart.
2006-07-31 00:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Killer Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not worth your time. Get away from him. No one who loves you would ever consider making out with another right in front of you. This is a hateful act. Not to mention the cheating and the drugs. He needs help and he is not going to change until he admits it and gets it. Don't give him another second of you time. Move out and start over and find someone that will value you as a person.
2006-07-31 07:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, How could u still love him, anyhow i know love is blind why dont you just wait n give more time to him and treat him just like your friend only, do not complain and waste ur tears. Do not expect something which he can not deliver anyhow you should be in touch with him, observe and look for other friends as good guys are alwys around you need to open the door of ur heart for others also. As you have learned a lot about trust, love and tough side of life you will be having a very good boy friend, lovable and trustworthy next time. I am sure about this......Good Luck!
2006-07-31 07:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you said "my ex was a liar and a cheater".... the answer is write another story... run and never EVER look back. There is no way I would stay with someone A) that is a liar because I could never trust him B) Could never be with a cheater again because I value my life (death by AIDS or a lifetime with Herpes does not appeal to me in the least) C)and. .. if I saw him make out in front of me with another girl... Ohhhh H e11 NO... I probably would be lead away in hand cuffs the next morning. Hun, the point I'm trying to make is the more ugliness you see in someone is the more out of love with them you will fall. Do not let him get anymore of you...he clearly does not deserve it. As a side Note: make sure you never put anything in his name... your car, your apartment, bank accounts if they are work on changing them over and get things in your own name... I just went through this with a best friend who kicked her husband out of the home after he tried to beat on her.... you see how this could get ugly real fast??
2006-07-31 07:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the case you are, even though you obviously love him, you are better off without him. If he doesn't care for your feelings then you are better off with him gone.
He obviously doesn't care otherwise he would have at least tried to kick the habit and he wouldn't have cheated or made out with his new biatch in front of you. You don't need to have that in your life, you derserve more than to sit around and watch the one you love get high and talk about cheating. You are better off with out him.
I would have walked out and gone somewhere, I wouldn't show him that I was hurt I would have gone and got a drink or something and then just turned the television on. Act cool, he'll wonder what you are doing.
Good luck in the future.
2006-07-31 07:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters that lil heffer wouldn't have made it into my house without getting her behind whooped and as for him, he would have got out of my house too. That's just disrespectful... isn't she a lil young to be with a 29 yr old man? Not only is he a liar, a cheat, a drug user but also likes young girls. This guy sounds like a dipstick that needs to be locked up.
2006-07-31 08:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by pha_qhaterz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he had really love you he would not have made out in front of you and not to mention "with a minor?". Anyhow you did the best thing by breaking off the relationship because you might have ended up like bobby and whitney. lets hope for the best for him and you don't be discouraged because what is for you no one can take away. Wait and someone better will be sent your way.
2006-07-31 07:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by thicksauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know girl it is hard , this love thing is crazy, but there are two things that you have to do
1. Pray for him and show him much love and hope he changes for the better, cos i did that.
2. Leave him and find another bloke that wont put u thru all this stress.
2006-07-31 07:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by cool guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you for being put in a situation like that but the first thing you should have done was kick them out as they do not have any right to do that to you.secondly you should have gone to a dr for a medical check up and then just tried to get on with your life and try to forget him completely.you deserve better than that.
2006-07-31 07:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have gotten myself straight to a good shrink, because you sound like you have major self-esteem problems if you let your fiance get away with this crap and "still love him."
Maybe you do still love him, but that don't mean you gotta marry him. Maybe you're just in love with being in love, or in love with the idea of getting/being married. But you gotta STOP and start treating yourself right, because obviously nobody else is.
2006-07-31 07:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋