I went on vacation abroad.. and went absolutely wild... as you do on holiday.. because you think youll never see anyone again.....
Well I live here now ad have for months but people still judge me for how I acted then..... I want people to see the real me but my past is getting in the way of that..... Please help... what can i do besides just being myself and trying to show them different....???
2006-07-31 00:34:49 · 17 answers · asked by shit_happens_partyin_naked 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is all you can do, Just keep your head up.The storm will pass! Eventually you will discover who your real friends are and that will be all that matters!
2006-07-31 00:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Macka 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Its hard when people ignore u or comment over u for u have done
Give them time to understand .
u cannot change ur past.
change now.Involve in some social work ie help ur neighbours or some old people. But never do the mistake which u commited once .
As days pass by ur attitude will change and u will soon realise that when u can help others there is no need to worry about u.
And u can surely make a good frend
2006-07-31 07:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by ashmi r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal reputation offers a fragile strand of hope to anyone who feels they have nothing left. To lose that reputation is arguably one of the worst things that could happen. Reputations take months and years to form and can be destroyed in minutes. Unfortunately, there isn't an instant fix to this problem. Sometimes you just have to accept that you've made a mistake and live with the consequences. Sorry.
2006-07-31 07:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by ʎǝ1ʇʇnɯ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go from one extreme to another, it's one of the worst things you can do.
Just be relaxed and yourself and eventually, your friends should accept the real you in the same way as before. If not, then you may have shallow friends :-(
One thing that may be helpful is humour. If you can laugh about it then your friends should be cool. A good sign of a good person is the ability to have a laugh at your own expense.
It's not always easy, but it should work :-)
Just keep at it, be patient and things will be OK :-)
2006-07-31 07:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by fojo81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be bothered what other people think true friends wont care that you have a wild side. I got a reputation for craziness and I was bothered what people were saying. Then I just thought so what! Its my life and I'll do whatever the hell I like and if you dont like who cares. Life is too short to waste on worrying about what others think.
2006-07-31 07:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by China9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Character is who you are.... not who you are when no one is looking.... you got yourself between a rock and a hard place....
I would have said you should have thought about the consequences before you did whatever you did to gain the reputation but I guess you didn't think you'd stay...
Well why did you stay if you earned yourself a bad name???
I guess the only thing to do is like you said. you need to act consistently as you want to be viewed..... if you already have a bad rep then one f**k up on your part will remind everyone of your past... so be careful!!!
Good Luck!!
and next time you go on holiday dont slag about...
and if you do....... DONT move there...LOL
2006-07-31 07:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont dwell too much on the past. Believe me, people tend to move on and forget about it. Just do your normal thing. Be good to other people and be friendly. Hey, Ive been there too u know! It took awhile for people to get over the incident that I got drunk on a company party and got to high-five the bosses while singing karaoke! Hahaha. (luckily i didnt get fired) Well, it was really embarassing and i guess everyone would get to that one time or another... DOnt dwell too much about it. Its their problem if it bothers them so much... Im sure they have done things like that at some point too.
2006-07-31 07:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to show them different..
A zebra does not change it's stripes etc..
Best advice that I can give you is to move to a different location.
You created what you wanted.
Just because you went on a vacation does not mean that you were not responsible for your actions. You are now paying for your actions.
Give me a shout at dvz_33@yahoo.com maybe I can help you to recover what you did worng.
2006-07-31 07:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it - just be yourself - make new friends and acquaintances that are on your wavelength and don't worry about what people think of you - while you're worring about what people are thinking about you - you are letting them manipulate your actions. Sod em! Be different - don't be the same as everybody else so you don't look out of place - be individual - like yourself - and let the rest of the world go and hang itself - works for me !
2006-07-31 07:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by beiterspace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions show how you truly are. Most people in general will forget over time when you show them differently but men are another story!!!!
2006-07-31 07:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making such an effort to do so. Just be your natural self. If anybody brings it up. Just laugh about it and make comments about "those were your wild days". Only when others bring it up though.
2006-07-31 07:38:39 · answer #11 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋