i'm from oklahoma originally. i grew up there and i love it!! im in hawaii right now. im here to help my aunt who had heart surgery. shes fine and im about to have to get a job and make an income. i dont mind working but i really dont want to be here. i came out here on a four day notice!! i miss my church and my family!! i havent been going to church and its killing me!!! i want to go back but how do i tell my aunt i want to leave?? she really wants me to stay but i wont be happy! im miserable already. ive been here since the 4th of July. i know enough to know that this will never be home. what do i do to keep the peace and be happy at the same time???????
2006-07-31 00:11:10 · 13 answers · asked by daddysgirl85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should tell her the truth about how you feel, I think if she is part of your family or if she loves you, she will understand your feelings... If she is so unconsiderable, then you should just get out of there because what else that she cant do if she is not kind to you...
2006-07-31 00:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home is were you make it...
Are you so tied to "your" church and family that you'd let it control your happiness? That you haven't been going to church means you haven't taken the risk to explore what is available locally - is that fear driving you?
I think there are millions of people who would love the opportunity to live on the islands... and yet you want to go back to Oklahoma.
Look at your attitudes, assumptions, and beliefs about the choice to stay and the choice to leave. Which ones enhance your life and the ones of those around you the most... Honestly look. And then make the choice that is most working - no one can fault that.
2006-07-31 00:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Steve D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly you're examining too a lot into it. perchance he's merely, merely, petrified of you. if it really is the case you'll under no circumstances have a efficient relationship with him. If i'm petrified of someone there is frequently a rationalization for it. it isn't that i'm petrified of a few skill that ought to exist in the relationship. Are you higher than him, ought to you describe your self as aggressive, do you've a pointy tongue? were you a bully at school? dedication phobia is garbage. those that are in love with themselves declare dedication phobia. the final analysis is they merely don't like you sufficient to contemplate sharing something of their lives with you. He is also a touch gay. Does he have many friends? discover out. I wager the answer is not any. even if that is not any, then there's a rationalization for this and he's appropriate left properly on my own, those human beings deliver happiness to no individual. My wager is that he's in reality very manipulative, shortly he will commence attempting to humiliate and belittle you in the front of others. pay attention this one is a wretch .
2016-11-27 00:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by brennen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this as a personal sacrifice. that its only once in a while that your aunt requests something for you. instead of thinking of the negative parts. look to the brighter sides. nevertheless she is still your aunt you can always go home anytime. god will understand if you go to mass because you have a valid reason. of course if you know that there is a church there.. you and your parents can talk to the phone right? just accomplish this request from your aunt.
2006-07-31 00:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sinead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you are going to be quite tough here. So long as your aunt is now OK not in need of care, it would be wrong of her to pressurise you into giving up your job opportunity. Just tell her straight you must leave for your own good personal reasons, and promise to keep in touch. Other members of your family might also be able to explain to her why you are doing this.
2006-07-31 00:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would start by telling your aunt that she has come along nicely and that it is time for you to go home.That you miss your loved ones as well as your friends and your lifestyle which includes your friends from church. BUT please make sure that your aunt IS ABLE to care for herself before you decide to go back home. Good Luck.
OH as an afterthought you might want to get your mom and dad involved in this. MORE SO with you being DADDY'S GIRL.
2006-07-31 00:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at Hawaii as your new home, look at it as a vacation time.......find a summer job, find a church you like, meet new people its ok to be home sick at any age......Oklahoma will always be there.....this could be an awesome adventure if you treat it like one.
2006-07-31 00:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by well_hell_is_this_name_taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with her..and have a talk..make some coffee and just tell her how you feel..she'll understand..she wouldnt want you staying at her house if you're not happy..your family wants you to be happy
2006-07-31 00:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to be away from home.
Why cant you find a church near your new home?
2006-07-31 00:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly are not happy where you are living go back to where you are happy. tell your aunt you will keep in touch.. but stay where you are comfortable.. and visit often to keep the conection
2006-07-31 00:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋