actually only some yrs before i foundout that i'm lesbian n i had sex with 2 gals but when i have sex i don't let them touch my body n assult them i like it when it hurts them i can't go to doc so plzzz tell me wat to do
2006-07-30 23:56:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
try writing the question so everyone can understand what youre trying to say.
2006-07-31 00:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a past problem that you need to confront? have you been hurt in a sexual way?
I feel the only 1 being hurt is you, you dont let yourself be touched, so your not really enjoying the experience of sex, the touching makes you feel sexually attractive and wanted. You feel like you need to overpower and be in control, as long as your partner agrees with this its ok but you need to be made to feel wanted and happy too,and your not, maybe you should stay away from the act of sex for a while and confront the real problem, if there is 1, you know what it is. You HAVE to be able to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Take Care and Good Luck.
2006-08-06 13:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really contact a therapist and explain it all to them. You may be struggling to accept the fact that you are a lesbian. I find it puzzling that you won't let them touch you. You may have other unresolved issues in your life that will not go away and will continue to pop up in your life if they are not dealt with. As far as the hurting thing, not sure I understand quite what you mean, but if you are hurting them physically or mentally, that is another issue to be dealt with a therapist. Good luck to you.
2006-08-07 22:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've always been the one hurt during sex from men, in which can over power you. Sounds like your taking out your anger on other women.
You have never been showed love, therfore don't know how to give it. READ some books learn how.
I also since you were mistreated as a child.
GOD BLESS YOU and please find a way to stop hurting people who care about you
2006-07-31 00:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by volleyball55morrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do love to have more violent and bondage type sex. Every-One has preferences, however, if u don't like what ur doing, get in contact with gay organisations and communities, where there are more like - minded people to help u out.
2006-07-31 00:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it would be interesting to find out what occured in your childhood. There apparently have been some emotional "triggers" implanted into your subconscious mind and when touched, create reactions you don't understand.
There is a simple method to ferret these triggers out.. may find it to be of help.
2006-08-05 12:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you cannot address without assistance
from the mental health community,they have the
dedicated proffesionals who've been educated in helping
people with these sort of issues.Try your county
mental health offices. Best Wishes.
2006-07-31 00:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by watts2ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are having some emotional issues of depression that you are unaware of. and by hurting the ones you love you find it releaves that pain. perhaps you should explain to who ever your partner may be. about the troubles your having.. also try to have as much fun as possible durring the day.
sorry i cant help more.. good luck
2006-07-31 00:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so u dont like them touching u, but u like it when u touch them? what do u mean assult them? r u actually hurting them or ur partner likes it? if ur partner likes it then theres no prob but if ur hurting ur partner then u should maybe try to let ur partner touch u and maybe u would like it and stop hurting ur partner?
2006-07-31 00:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by visiter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not quite sure what ur asking. u have sex but don't let them touch u. u assault them??? u like that it hurts????
some confusion as to your sexuality perhaps? maybe u just like it rough and want to b the one in control....
2006-08-05 20:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAITH, HOPE AND LOVE, BUT THE GREATEST OF THESE IS LOVE..........YOU SEEM TO BE ANGRY ABOUT SOMETHING DEEPLY INSIDE OF YOU........ LOOK AT THE POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE & TREAT YOUR PARTNER WITH TENDERNESS..... STOP FORCING A DEEP HARSH PASSION OF PAIN THAT ...SEEMS TO BE THE POWER OF YOUR "EMOTION"........LOVE THE PERSON THE WAY YOU NEED TO BE LOVED.... IF YOU HAVENT FOUND THE RIGHT PARTNER YET & YOU STILL MAY EXPERIENCE THE PATH OF ....YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE...SYNDROME..... MAYBE YOU NEED TO BE IN "CONTROLL...... OR MAYBE YOUR FIGHTING WITH A DEEP EMOTION THAT YOU DONT HAVE THE ANSWER TO YET ........ LOOK WITHIN YOUR SOUL.....& TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THE WAY YOU MIGHT BE FEELING.....LOVE YOURSELF........FIND OUT WHO YOU REALY ARE...... TAKE CARE OF "YOU" THANKS.........
2006-08-06 13:48:48 · answer #11 · answered by deenishia1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋