My sister in law keeps coming over to my house without calling first and the last time she came over my husband was real sick and since it was so early in the morning I didnt get a chance to clean up first and I was in the middle of breastfeeding my baby.I never breastfeed in front of her especially when she was her kids with her so I went in the back room.
Well my husband yelled at her by asking why she didnt call first.She said that she called a few days ago and left messages for me but she was lieing.I think she just wanted to start trouble.My sister in law ended up leaving cause she got mad when my husband asked her why she didnt call first.She said she was just in the neighborhood and she decided to stop in. Now we haven't talked to her in a few weeks.This is my husbands sister.I feel like she no respect for my husband and I and does what she wants when she wants.how should I handle this? Should my husband and I apoligize?
2006-07-30 23:55:43 · 13 answers · asked by oneredhotmama09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Absolutly do NOT apologize until she apologized 1st for showing up out of the blue! You did nothing wrong! So what if you havent talked to her in weeks. sounds like she was becoming a pain in the azz anyway. Do you want things to return to 'normal' like they were before?
Let her be pissed for a while! Perhaps she will get the idea. If she's not dropping in on you, she is dropping in on someone esle and perhaps they will give her the boot too!
2006-07-31 00:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you and your husband ought to decide what you find appropriate for visits, then talk to her about it. Give it some time to cool down first, so you can all be in a calm, polite mood when talking.
I would start with an apology for the argument, but let her know that you would prefer her to call first and make sure it is a good time to come over, as you would prefer not to breastfeed in front of her or the kids.
Bottom line is that it is your house, and you have every right to set the rules for how and when people visit.
2006-07-31 07:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by merigold00 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is family and as such they can really get on ones nerves, but regardless of that we still love each other and really should treat each other with respect.
It is tough with a new baby around. Everyone loves a baby and wants to be a part of its life. Think good thoughts like she only wanted to see the baby and help you... be the bigger person and give her a call and explain to her. I am sure she will understand. I am not saying you need to apologize, just talk.
Talk with your husband and see when a good time for visitors is or something like how we work in our house - we understand that no one comes or calls before 9 am (unless emergency) or after 8 pm. It works well and the house is quiet and peaceful when expected.
2006-07-31 07:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, thats the joys of having a sister..But on a serious side I would call her and keep a cool, tone with her and just explain why its so important for her to call and any other issues that you guys might have with her.Try not to point a finger cause if she feels like your putting the blame on her then more than likly she will become defensive and end up not hearing anything you have to say...Be Nice
2006-07-31 07:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't apologize. you are in the right. call her up and tell her that you would like it if she would give you a heads up before she comes over. or you can set a day of the week for her to stop by like every Monday after noon. she don't have to come by every Monday but then at lest you will know that day she might stop in and you will be ready. this will make you and your husbands life much better.
2006-07-31 07:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by brandi g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! You and your husband have nothing to apologize for. Your sister in law should be old enough by now to know that it is common courtesy to call before you visit someone. Stick to your guns you folks are definitely in the right here. Good Luck!
2006-07-31 07:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she feels comfortable enough with you and your husband to just stop by. That doesn't seem to be unusual among family members. I can see your point that you would like a little notice though. Maybe you two should call her to discuss. Also, I wouldn't be ashamed of breastfeeding, it's a natural human thing to do. I don't feel woman should have to hide it.
2006-08-06 16:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by toomuchtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your sister in law that you liek whebn you comes to visit but you prefer that she calls first to confirm with you, not just leave a message,
Be firmn and tell her that your home is not DEW DROP IN!
2006-07-31 07:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt apologize for being honest.. Its good to put people in there place, esp when they have no right to be disrespecting your privacy.
2006-07-31 07:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It will blow over. If you apologize she will only continue to disrespect your space. Wait until she apologizes.
2006-07-31 06:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by kitty fresh & hissin' crew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋