Age should never be an issue if the chemistry is there. do u all agree or r u all closeminded?

Answer 1

Age should defintely be an issue if one of them is underage.

And wait, did some chick below me just try to say that it's proven by Danielle Steele books? Ok, maturity matters way more than age, once everyone is legal.

Answer 2

Nice loaded question.

Age is obviously a legal issue if one of the people is not an adult. However, assuming both are consenting adults, can age still be an issue if the "chemistry is there"?

I would say yes. "Chemistry" is good, maybe even necessary, for a great relationship -- but it's not the only thing to take into account. Here are some other things to consider:

1. When people have a large difference in age, they are usually in different places in their lives. The younger partner may still have some growing and changing to do, and this may be in the direction of incompatibility with the older partner, who is often set in his/her ways of thinking/relating. This can be a recipe for heartbreak and alienation.

2. Another potential problem that can also be closely related to the first one is that the two may not have much in common. Can a 20-year-old really carry on a meaningful conversation with a 40-year-old? In certain cases, maybe, but this is something to think about.

3. An age-disparate relationship can often take a sort of parent-child character, which can be unfulfilling for the older partner, a barrier to personal growth for the younger partner, and just generally sort of creepy.

4. The older partner may be stuck at a "younger" stage of emotional development which makes this sort of relationship desirable for them. The younger partner may then outgrow the relationship (see 1).

These four are just some things to consider. There are certainly cases where age-disparate relationships can work out beautifully, but both people need to know what they are getting into and what the potential hazards are. If you both make the leap knowing what you're getting into, more power to you. Chemistry is a powerful thing, so try to take a step back or take things slowly so you can be a little more rational about it.

That said, I wish you good luck. And by the way, you also may wish to learn a little more about logical fallacies like the one included in your question!

Answer 3

I agree with exceptions.. If your under 18.. is the exception.. Maybe 17 but below that I dont think should be even THINKING about dating or the opposite sex, same sex in some cases. Now I usually date guys 10 yrs around about older.. I find nothing wrong with it if they can treat me better then the pricks younger who do admit to wanting 1 or 2 things that I am not interested in.. If your happy.. Who's to say that age makes it wrong? Because most likely the person's' making the judgement are lonesome anyways! Now if your with someone who is an age differ to you if neither of you are under 18 then so be it.. Good Luck.. If either of your are under 18 on the other hand Shame on you, kids arent old enough.. even a 16 year old!
Anyways I have said my peace
Good Luck, hope you find the answer you are looking for.

Answer 4

Age is a issue if there is a large (10+ years) or if one of the people is under 16/18 .... i loosely use that age for both legal, and their mental mind. A say 25 year old person dating a 16 year old girl is an issue.

This is backed up by common social opinion

Answer 5

I do think that both people should be consenting adults - meaning both over the age of 18... I know that people start dating around 16, and I might be considered to be closed-minded because I think that teenagers should date teenagers. After both people are 18, then age isn't really a problem.

Answer 6

age shudn't b issue if love is sacred and true. it shud not be a lust or physical attraction. Many of the Danielle Steel stories have taken up this issue and proved if ur love is true, u have perfect chemistry then age simply no bar

Answer 7

age shouldnt matter unless one is under age. You should set a limit as to how much older or younger of a person you're looking for as it would be smart to think about it in the long run.

Answer 8

i am close minded,
when you are less than 18, you are not mature enough to find the right person,
but young and old having chemistry, i m open minded,
like 50 for 30,

Answer 9

I really agree with you, whats in a age afterall its the same thing, you know what i mean.

Answer 10

There are social and legal implications that are unfavourable, is the relationship strong enough to withstand it all? It's not just about open or closemindedness.