why does my 3 years old leave his bed at night every night to come and sleep beside us and how do i end this?

Answer 1

Once you realize he has crawled into bed with you, pick him up and put him in his own bed. Make sure he has a favorite bear/blanket or something of his so he feels safe. Do you have a night light for him at night?

Tell him when he wakes up at night to close his eyes and fall back to sleep and that Mommy is not far away. Have you had him sleep with you before? Because that could be the major cause of it.

Answer 2

If I was 3 years old I'd want to sleep in my parents bed too, but it sounds like your child has just got into a nice, comfy routine. Try putting him back in his own when he is asleep so he gets used to waking in his own bed, and if that doesn't work, just put him back until he gets the message. There will probably be tears, but that's the way it goes.

Answer 3

Get a little camp bed and put it beside your bed the first night. Then there-after move it one foot away per night. And put in some of your cloths and daddy's clothes so as the child can smell you both and feel comforted.

Answer 4

Maybe he has bad dreams or wants to be with you. My sister slept with my parents until she was 10-11 when she quit. I slept on my own at 7. Don't punish him,instead go in his room with him and tell him this is his bed and he has to learn to sleep here, Try a night light, he made be afarid of the dark.

Answer 5

You're the parent, send him back to bed.
Figure out why he does it. Is he scared of the dark, does he have a hard time falling back to sleep ( gets up to pee and can't go back to sleep) Has he been doing it for a long time and now it's just a habit that you have to break?

Everytime he comes in.. take him back... and take him back and take him back.. Eventually he'll get the hint and stay.
If there's nothing rewarding about it, he won't want to stay.

Answer 6

Being close to you makes him feel secure. I would not punish him for this, he just want to be close to mommy and daddy. Make sure he has a night light in his room, try snuggling with him before bedtime, but when you put him in his bed tell him that he is a big boy and he needs to sleep in his own bed.

Answer 7

If you a dead set on him not sleeping with you put a baby gate on his door and talk to him about it. discuss a reward if he makes it all night in his own bed. explain that mommy is very tired and cant play with him as much when he wakes her up. even if he can climb over it may help him turn around and go back. With one od my children I put a toddler bed in my room and he slept there. You can even just get a mattress andslid it under you bed.

Answer 8

because he wants to be close to you.
i have 3 boy's and a girl and they all went through the same thing my oldest was worse though, i would just let him stay with me and snuggle, my husband and i didn't argue about it, and he eventually progressed to the foot of the bed, then the floor, then he stayed in his room or would go to the sofa. they out grow these sweet things they do so fast, just enjoy it now while you can because before you know it he will be 20 and you will definitely not be what he wants to snuggle, lol.
be patient, the more you show him love, understanding,and comfort now, the better man he will become. such a small investment now will be such an awesome reward in your future.

Answer 9

well did you co-sleep with him when he was a baby?
If you did after 3 months old you kinda set yourself up for this. If not, than maybe he just has bad dreams.
Try taking him out of your bed and laying with him in his for a little while until he falls asleep...

Answer 10

You are the parent for chrissake. Just overrule it! Grab the kid and say "OK junior, back to bed with you" and put him back in his room. End of story. If he won't stay there, tell him he's a big boy and he'd better stay there...if not, there will be consequences (make sure you follow through).