2006-07-30 22:54:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
yeah - to enable an alcoholic to reach a point where they are ready to stop drinking they have to reach a place called their 'rock bottom' and whilst other people are still helping them to drink they will never reach this point and therefore never need to stop drinking.
Helping an alcoholic to drink can be done in many ways such as:
- Buying the alcohol
- Excusing their behaviour
- Hiding their behaviour
- Lying for them to employers to help them keep a job
This list goes on and on and is called enabling.
Once an alcoholic cannot manipulate others into enabling them to drink life will become much harder and they will reach their rock bottom, the place where they decide they cannot go on like this any longer and so reach a point of surrender and reach out for help with their alcoholism.
Alcoholism is a progressive disease which kills many people each year - although no cure for alcoholism has yet been found there is a solution which can help alcoholics stop drinking one day at a time (and these days soon add up!)
If you know someone who is an alcoholic suggest they go to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. I would also suggest that you get some support for yourself at Al-Anon - the helpline numbers will be available in your phone directory.
2006-07-30 22:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there comes a point when the alcoholic/addict of any kind MUST face their addiction and do something about it. Often times this does not happen until he or she has hit and gone beyond rock bottom. As long as the alcoholic/addict has someone supporting them through the hard times they don't deal with their sickness. Sadly, what usually happens is the person/people supporting the alcoholic/addict becomes as trapped in the web of addiction because they want to help. What HAS to happen is the person/people supporting the alcoholic/addict MUST back away and let he or she continue the downward spiral until they have destroyed everything in their path. Once this happens the road to recovery can begin for all. A side note here: the road to recovery is often times as painful for all involved as the journey downward was. If you are dealing with an alcoholic/addict or are one yourself I wish you the best of luck and pray you find your way.
2006-07-31 06:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by eccentriclady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough love in my opinion is not enabling the alcoholic to drink around them or any other action to prevent them from drinking while you are around. sometimes when the alcoholic knows they may lose those they love and they sometimes do, it may be a trigger to get help, but the main thing is to let the person know they have a problem, and give suggestions on how to get help. they have to want the help though...sometimes you just have to let them go, so you dont have to watch them kill themselves (and that is exactly what they are doing if they are an alcoholic) get yourself informed with all you can about the disease and you can better be able to deal with the situation. try http://www.aa.org and there is a website i found for blogging and chatting...http://www.threadsofhopeinrecovery.com talk to others who have been there or are there now...good luck..
2006-08-02 20:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by bbmcgee65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have different ways of coping with different things that happen in our lives.Many alcoholics use alcohol to numb thier emotional pain. you have to understand that when some one is giving up the drink they are not just getting over an addiction they are also have to confront their demons, emotions,(things that have happened in the past), this takes alot of courage, and for the people standing by and watching this process you need to be patient , give alot of support,and their bad drinking habits can not be condoned.(thus tough love)
2006-07-31 20:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love is also 'you have to be cruel to be kind'
With respect to alcoholism, it means being strong and not giving that person alcohol even when they beg you. It means being their conscience, their balance, their parent, and their friend.
You have to basically help them function while they learn how to again.
This is tough love because they will want alcohol, and you have to stop them.
2006-07-31 05:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by chicgirl639 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i fall down drunk i should be left there. If i fall asleep in a cold place i should not be given a blanket. If i piss the bed i should be left to wake up in it and should clean it up myself. If i am sick on myself no one else should help me clean myself up. If i behave like an asshole no one else should apologise for me. If i don't make it to work no one should call my employer and lie for me, i should be allowed to become unemployed. The full consequences of my drinking should be allowed to be realised in my life.
2006-07-31 06:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Laura H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By letting the person get to their rock bottom( ie no family members or freinds supporting them ) they should be able to face up to their problem and want to do something about it.
2006-07-31 06:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Richard S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person needs to stand on his or her own toes while someone there for them all the time they wont stop you got to be cruel to be kind
2006-07-31 10:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋