How can I raise my confidence level?

Question

I'm shy and I've always been this way since I was a little kid all the way through highschool. I was always the one out of my group of friends that never said or held conversation with a guy very well because of my shyness. But now that I'm starting college in the fall, I fill like this could be a new slate for me. So can I get some pointers before i had off.....thanxs!

Answer 1

Looking back, I wish I understood at 18 what I do now. I was so self-conscious and shy. I missed out on many things because of it.

So, I will impart some wisdom.

Nobody gives a crap about you. Or about anyone else. Mostly, they're way too caught up in themselves. You know that feeling where you're in a crowd, and you're thinking 'how do I look, what are people thinking of me'. Here's the answer - they're not. Nobody will ever think of you as much as you are.

So..... have some fun. If you're going to be noticed, have it be because you're having a good time. Do what feels good to you - dress the way YOU want. Say the things YOU want.

Treat other people well - don't ever think being a jerk will help you. Just be true to things you value. Someone who believes in himself will always stand out above those who are doubting.

You can do it. And enjoy your college years - they are priceless!

Answer 2

You won't believe this, but....get rid of your ego. Kill it, choke it when it's not looking, dump it in the river, just get rid of it. "shyness" comes from fear of looking bad in front of people. Fear of failure.Your ego cooks up all sorts of excuses for you not do something for this reason.
Think of it this way, would you care if someone didn't think you were cool, if YOU didn't think they SHOULD think so?
So, tell yourself you're not better than anybody and be humble, know you have nothing to lose. Humility is the key, and everyone likes a humble guy. I'm not saying walkover, humble. Try it, you'll see and you'll feel amazing. You'll feel starnge at first, cos your ego will disagree and find it hurtful, but that will soon go away.
You should know....there are two types of "confidence". Some people build confidence by looking down on others "what they think doesn't matter, cos I'm cool anyway", and they psyche themselves out by listing their so called good qualities. This is the "confidence" that is usually seen as ********* or arrogance. That's because it is.
The other one is the one I described above. Real confidence is really just being secure. You will only ever feel secure when you lose your ego and be humble. I'm deadly serious.

Answer 3

why have you been shy being a guy??? guys ought to be confident...rather all humans should be confident. keep these things in mind and u will be filled with ample confidence and be able to hold on conversations with any one who comes ur way...
1. think that u r the best
2.keep ur achievements in ur mind..anything u did good for someone in life.
3.feel good inside to reveal goodness outside
4.look at the mirror when u get ready n say to ur self..."oh ! I LOOK SO NICE N HANDSOME"
5.always keep giving suggestions to ur self that-"i have not done anything wrong..its my life and i will live it to the fullest and i have the full right to enjoy , meet friends, go out with them.
6.whoever doesnt wana talk to u...jus forget about him. if someone talks to u...be good and co-operative to him or her .
7. people dont like shy guys. so be proud of what u are ...c how u will radiate with the strenght of confidence within and ur face will glow and people will get attracted to u
I CAN ASSURE U THIS. I AM A VERY BEAUTIFUL GIRL I WILL NOT LIE TO U ...AND I HAV NEVER HAD GIRLS AS MY FRIENDS COZ ALL GET JEALOUS IN A DAY OR SO AND START HARMING ME IN SOME WAY OR THE OTHER. SO I ALWAYS KEPT THESE THINGS IN MY MIND AND I AM THE MOST CONFIDENT GIRL AND I CAN GO ANYWHERE ALONE, TALK TO ANYONE MOST CONFIDENTLY. WHY SHOULD I FEEL BAD IF PEOPLE HAV PROBLEM WITH ME?? I HAVE TO LIVE AND WILL LIVE CONFIDENTLY. GOD HAS MADE ME LIKE THAT, ITS MY DESTINY.
SO CHILL MY FRIEND AND BE HAPPY
GULUCK

Answer 4

Do not force yr self 2 become what u r not. Be natural and have confidence in yr self. Just smile and be friendly . A simple hello will do.Do not be 2 proud 2 ask 4 help or advice. Help others if u r able 2 do so. Just be yr own sweet self. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Congratulations...as this will open up new vistas for you. Being receptive is part of the key...an openness and willingness to make new friends. There are many people who feel as you do...so don't assume it is easy for them either...and you will make many new discoveries.

You are about to meet people who will share some of your interests and goals...and this is very exciting. Don't appear too anxious, learn to listen first...some of the smartest people I know never open their mouths (it is why they are smart).

When you do venture forth with a comment make sure it is true for you in some way...don't be just saying it to say it...it will come out lame. Stay true to yourself...always...don't compromise who you are. You can always start out with simple...and work your way up: "What classes are you taking?" "Who do you think is the best professor/instructor?" "Do you like to read?"

Sometimes, if you ask simple questions, you will discover you are in conversation without even knowing it. Good Luck!

Answer 6

dear change your attitude towards talking with a guy coz talking to a guy will cost u nothing. like u make ur other frens make a guy also ur casual fren. do not think that if ull talk to a guy then there is something wrong in this. u must understand the reality of life. do u feel shy to talk to ur dad or ur brother. then why u shy to talk to other guys. have confidence in ur self and always be positive in ur life. remember one thing u have just one life to do all wat u can do. live life to its fullest. u don't have to be shy from anybody.let others make shy of u. u know what ,if god gives u 100 problems to cry u show him that u have 100 resons to smile and everything will be allright. just have confidence

Answer 7

com in feel existing
you will go to a new world you will have your new friends too remember you are not the only one who search about friends watch them u will find them shy and looking for new friends ...follow your hart to chose the good one don't act like you are stranger because they all feel so .... wait for a while you may be find someone come to u say hello then begin a conversation ... don't be shy they all feel nervous at first day the all have your fairs.
trust in your self I know u will have your own friends i know it because I was the same.
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Answer 8

This is one thing nobody can do for you. The key is to self confidence is to have faith in yourself. Believe in yourself and everything else will fall in place. If you don't do this you will feel this way even if you are all alone with yourself.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

u the only one who can give u yr confidence,nobody else being shy does not stops u from starting a convisation with others,u will never know unless u try,good luck