Im a good listener; however, i find it hard to open up. I know I can find a common ground or a subject to talk about...but what would you suggest????
2006-07-30 22:19:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
everyone is different. some are good speakers, others listeners, a few thinkers. you don't need to force yourself to open up when there really is no need to. its who you are an interpersonal character. one who appreciates things by yourself. of course there is a cliche: " no man is an island." and whether we like or not, sometimes we need to pretend like we appreciate others as well. pretense is the key word. but not in a negative light. to pretend means to act. and it needs to be practiced. just think of silly stuff, trivial things to say to people. create stories about you. they wont notice it. tell them youve tried this and that. youve heard that this and that is good. yada yada yada. just remember never ask personal questions like, "are you married?", or "do you have a boyfriend?" or "how much are you making now?" its rude and improper. practice makes perfect. by doing it constantly youll get the vibe. and someday it will just come out naturally. just try it you wont lose anything rather you will gain new friends.
2006-07-30 22:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by gaucherive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just do not watch out for what others would think of you, and keep on being a good listener.
2006-07-31 05:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by fanto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good listiner most people love good listeners. but look for someone who is very shy, try to become friends with them then you can open up to them.
2006-07-31 05:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe a major problem for me too.. But I try to open up on small things like "When did you graduated?" or "What course are you in?" (When talking to a student. That way we can compare courses..) or other small things.. Movies, TV shows.. A note from me.. Avoid talking anything about politics and weather.. It can either bore people to death or start a huge political debate/fight..
2006-07-31 05:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself. Smile and you will seem apporachable. Try wearing something unique and unusual. I have learned that it makes for a great icebreaker. If the other person is the one who is wearing something unique and unusual, use that for the icebreaker. All good conversations start with, "Hi! My name is......."
2006-07-31 05:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋