Does he like me as a girlfriend or afriend.?

Question

A friend of mine at college and I used to hang a lot. As friends we used to study together, go to concerts BBQ's. Now he callls me almost everynight. He also started to invite me almost everynight to his room to watch movies. The two of us will watch video clips, sing and dance (the singing and dancing where hillarious, nothing sexually though). Sometimes he would tease me like a little kid. My friends have told me he likes, but I am not sure about that.
However, he talks about how much he likes porn and even show me a videoclip once. One time when he saw a girl walking by he said how much he wished he would nail her.
He knows I am quite liberal about that. But would you say that to a girl that you like?
We also talk about what we want each other from a relationship, he is dissappointed because he is not in one.
Do you think he likes me, and how should I ask him?

Answer 1

I'm gonna be totally honest with you here, but here goes.

It seems like he's indirectly propositioning you to have some casual fun. The random sexual comments, the porn, etc. He's testing the waters to see if it's safe to have kind of "friendship" with you.

I'm a guy. I've played that game before. It's mean-spirited and immature... but it's all part of growing up. I certainly hope this isn't the case, 'cause I'm sure you value his "friendship", but from the way it sounds, this is a clear-cut case of water-testing. He wants to see how far he can push the envelope with you without being "tied down" by a "broad".

And, honestly, this wishy-washy behavior, if he indeed like you "as a girlfriend" can be an annoyance in a relationship situation. Guys are supposed to "think on their toes", as some of my more mature female friends have informed me over the years. Guys who aren't sure about this and that come off as being just another chick. A guy who knows what he wants and goes for it is a guy who will tend to be honest and forthright. This guys definately got some emotional skeletons in his closet.

My opinion: this guys not telling you everything. And he's testing the waters...seeing how far he can push things WITHOUT commitment. My guess is...he fears commitment, but loves female attention. He wants a girl, but not neccesarily a "girlfriend" (if u know what I mean). Just watch yourself around this one. I'm serious.

Hope this helps. Have no idea how I found this (it was by total accident) but I am glad I did. Good luck anyhow.

Answer 2

It sounds as if he might be feeling you out to see if you are interested in him as well. The amount of time you spend together and the fact he invites you to his room nightly is a good indication he really likes you. The comment about him nailing that other girl I wouldnt worry about. Maybe he wanted to see what kind of reaction he could get out of you, or he was just being a man...they tend to always think with their penis's...lol Either way, next time you to are together and the moment feels right, ask him if he ever thought about you two being more than just friends. If he says no just play it off as a joke. At least you will know, but it seems to me you have nothing to worry about. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Looks like most of the work has already been done. So next time your alone toss it out there and see whats up. Now he may be completely NOT into you and there goes the friendship or he might end up worshiping the ground you walk on. Roll the dice and see......