I am an innocent girl who just dumped her bf. he caused it. I have been hearing rumours that he dates my bestfriend and i caught them having coffee together at night. i became angry. he came the ff day and apologised bt i refused. He always sends gifts to me thru my younger sister and i know in ma hrt that i love him and he does also. should i apologize to him and continue the relationship or should i 4gt him.
2006-07-30 20:57:57 · 32 answers · asked by TO BE CONTINUED.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
huh? apologise about what? apologise for catching them having coffee or apologise for dumping him? Either way, no apologies needed as for one you caught them together, and the other, that was your thoguht and feelings at that time. If he knows you, he ought to understand.
2006-07-30 21:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by choy_daniel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I first wanted to know what they were doing together on a coffee. It really depends if they were friends before you met him and dates him or they became friends after.
1.) If they were friends before maybe he asked your bestfriend to talk about you because she know you well - were you had some problems or sth?
2.) They could met in the bar and then sit to drink a coffe?
3.) They met many times - You can forget him and beat you friend - this is not a friend.
4.) Why dont you ask your bestfriend what was she doing with your bf? In this way it would be all clear!
Goodluck!
2006-07-30 21:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by lele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumours? Oh boy... I know you're youthful but imagine if every relationship could break up because of rumour...
Psssst... did you hear Stephen Harper is messing with Loni Anderson? OOPS, there goes two more marriages...
Talk to him, if you believe him, that's all that matters... you have to trust HIM, not other girls. I WANT my husband to get along with my best friend... just as he wants me to get along with his. Male + Female + coffee DOES NOT equal cheating.
I love this poem:
My name is Rumour.
I have no respect for Justice. I maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age. The more I am quoted and the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society. My victims are helpless. They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face.
To track me down is impossible. The harder you try and the more elusive I become. I am nobody's friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation and it is never the same. I topple governments and wreck marriages. I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights and heartaches and indigestion. I spawn suspicion and generate grief. I make innocent people cry in their pillows. Even my name hisses.
I am called RUMOUR. I make headlines and headaches. Remember, before you repeat a story, ask yourself:
Is it true? Is it fair? Is it necessary? ? If not, do not repeat it. Keep quiet.
2006-07-30 21:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!
I wish a guy I'm dating would be having coffee with my best friend with out me. They would have been wearing that coffee.
GET A BACK BONE GIRL!
not to mention she's not your best friend cause if she was, she would not be dating your man at a coffee shop. And if he called her and said hay lets meet for coffe, the next person she should have called is you.
You did the right thing. Seem to me that your gonna forgive him anyway, but let me let you know this, this will not be the last time this happens if you stay with him. I might not be your fake a$$ best friend next time.
My girls man can't even think he's gonna call me and hook up with me anywhere cause I'm gonna let her know "You man is tripping and you need to check him. Or I would have called you and we would have both meet his *** for coffee and I would have asked him how he's gonna hook up with me with out my girl right in front of her.
2006-07-30 21:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coffee with a friend?
Hmmm. Maybe you read too much into the situation, but if you have other evidence maybe you didn't.
No reason to go back to him as it sounds like you had other thoughts. Probably good to apologize though - you should always try to remain friends with ex's where possible.
2006-07-30 21:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by ◄ Mal ► 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cause once a cheat always a cheat if you feel you live him then you guyz should be pretty serious and i don't want to tell you wrong but this type of behavior does not stop over night and your bf can be left alone now she's no friend.
2006-07-30 21:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe apologize for your own peace of mind and heart but don't get back together with him. You wouldn't be able to trust him anymore! If you still love him, it's gonna be extremely hard to keep away from him but in the end, it will be the smartest thing you could do.
2006-07-30 21:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by missamerino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back together girl. maybe he was just talking to your bestfriend because she may sound cool. an rumours are faulse that float around getting bigger. So go back and if he does cheat on you (which you should have waited to see) then dump him. don't asume.
2006-07-30 21:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tegan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he sounds like a liar and you can't trust him. If they were having coffee together at night, there's something more to it. You deserve better, don't let someone lie to you. And as far as your best friend, I would look for other friends. It sounds like you can't trust this best friend, if that's what you want to call her. Sounds like he want's his cake and eat it too. Good Luck!!
2006-07-30 21:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and move on. There r lots of guys out there. But realy think about your friendship with ur bestie... with friends like that who needs emeniesl
2006-07-30 21:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshynebeams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋