I met a guy about 6months ago and he asked me out but, i was still dating my ex and hence was not interested in anything serious. We remained friends though. I broke up with my ex about 3 months ago and then about one month ago i started becoming interested in him. I have shown him signs that i am now interested in something more than friendship. I call him more often but he doesnt seem to be taking the relationship to another level.
He calls me every other day and sees me weekends during which we just hang out and talk for about a couple of hours. I just moved to another city and he hasnt even bothered to come and visit. He doesnt call me when he is working and sometimes, he keeps me waiting for his call. He doesn't buy me any gift or flowers. This really gets me confused as i dont know he really wants from me.
I am hoping we can start dating ASAP cos i really like him now. I asked a common friend to tell him but still nothing has changed. Is he interested in dating me or what
2006-07-30 20:46:55 · 27 answers · asked by Sahem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he dont want to get more than frndship from u at present.Just ignore him a little & if he gets annoyed with yr ignorance then it seems that he is really interested in u & that will be the right time for u to tel him yr feelings.
2006-07-30 20:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by sunil_frn 2 · 20⤊ 7⤋
He might be afraid of a shootdown. Guys...(no offense to the men out there)...are kind of slow at the pick up it seems. You might have also scared him off. Guys don't like to be attached. He might just want to remain friends or maybe he isn't ready for a relationship but if he knows you are interested in him he shouldn't lead u on.
Simply talk to him. Point blank ask him where you two stand. Don't beat around the bush. That way there is NO confusion on either side. Hoped I helped.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-30 20:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by charmedp4forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah! You are a genius. A guy asks you out and you tell him that you are dating someone else and then you break up with that someone else and just hint that he can come and fetch now.
Does it not occur to you that he has a little dignity.
Also, if you say no I am with someone else, and then breakup with that person and let him now that now he can try again, it is either like he is second hand or you are second hand.
Why don't you take some initiative and get the job done for yourself.
2006-07-30 20:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be with someone who will make time to see you. It sounds like since he met you and you were dating someone else that he might only be interested in the chase and not the actual relationship. If a guy wants to be with you, you will know it. Why do you want to be with a guy that is obviously not making an honest effort to see you and make you wait for his call? That's not right. Believe me, I went through this when I was 19-20 years old and it left me hurt and confused. Nurture yourself and rock out in your own life! A man who is mature and willing to date you will move heaven and earth to make that happen. When I met my husband, he pursued me and I felt so cared for. That is what you need and you shouldn't settle for someone who will only see you when it suits them. Good luck to you!
2006-07-30 20:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by buddhawoman32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, from what you're saying about his past actions toward you, he still likes you a lot. But, maybe now that you're not with your ex anymore, he finds that it's your turn to give him attention.
When you were dating your ex, he was giving you all the time in the world, you said. That was when you were with someone. But, now that you are available, he seems more keen to trying to gain your affection the same way you got your ex's. So try to be the one to make the moves, and see his reaction.
2006-07-30 20:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical woman. You dont want him when he wants you, but want him even more when he ignores you. Take the hint that he is not interested in you...much....and respect yourself enough to find a guy that is totally wants you and will treat you right.( That means calling you, wanting to be with you all the time, ect..) Unless you just want to hook-up..in that case..just tell him and he'll come visit you before you hang up the phone.
2006-07-30 20:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by d h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are a mystery. Dont be like most other girls who just sit around wondering what their mate wants from them. Be real about what you want and ask him. Then at least you'll know the truth. Only he knows if hes interested but you deserve to know.
~Rickeisha
2006-07-30 20:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rickeisha AKA Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like the window of opportunity has closed. There could've been something back then, but now I think he's moved on. It happens sometimes. Stupid timing is hard to get right.
2006-07-30 20:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by Assy McBonerson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is not interested and you are on a rebound and he was the easiest to go for. So stop barking up the wrong tree, Regroup and the right guy will come along.
2006-07-30 20:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try to ask him out. By turning him down the first time, he still has this image that you like him just as a friend.
2006-07-30 20:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk with him, and ask him what's going on. Perhaps he is not interested anymore. Besides, there are plenty of guys in the world.
2006-07-30 20:54:34 · answer #11 · answered by Mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋