Finding difficulty trying to date a single mom, what can I do to make her feel comfortable with me?

Question

Well she is a single mom working almost 9 to 10 hours a day. It is EXTREMLY difficult to date her because of her time limit. She needs to work and be with the kids, I can understand that, but I am also willing to help her if I can. I cant be around her house since shes living with her family, but everytime I try to ask her out for dinner and get things planned, she calls later to apologize because shes exhausted. I was thinking of doing something together with the kids, but then it wouldnt be really called a date. I really do like her. Any tips or suggestions? Thanks

Answer 1

Well..... I guess that doing somthing together with the kids would be a great start. Get used having them around, they always will be anyway if it realy becomes serious.
But on the other hand, she should in time realize that single mums will have problems finding a dating partner, so she should also do an effort.

Answer 2

Try to find a weekend or something, when she has time off. Offer to hire a babysitter, or even do let the kids come along. She'll be more willing to date you if you show that you can care about her kids too. After all, they are a big part of her life, and she's going to want them to be accepted by you too. Take them and her out for ice cream, and then go to a park or something, and let them play. You'll get a bit of alone time with her to talk, and she can give the kids exercise too. Also, make sure she KNOWS that you're willing to help. Do thoughtful things, like bringing her the occassional flowers. Don't be stalkerish/pushy about it, but be nice to her. Since she's single, she's probably having to regain confidence in herself after whatever she's been through with her ex-spouse or boyfriend or whatever caused her to be a single mom. If she's lost trust in men, it might take a little work to show her that you can be trusted. Another thought would be to take her to a spa. See if she'd be interested in a massage and stuff. She's sure to have stress if she's a single working mom. Sometimes you just have to remind her that she does need "her" time too. ^_^

Answer 3

If all ur attempts fail, maybe u should take sum drastic measures(kiddin),and focus ur energy on sum new ideas.Perhaps, u could talk 2 her 1-on-1. Surprise her by planning a romantic dinner @ home. Maybe get sum1 u trust 2 babysit the kidz. Ok. I understand she gets tired after a long day @ work. Think of it as an opportunity.Women luv bubble baths(nothing relaxes me more & quicker), get that going in her tub or jacuzzi(whateva) .Put rose petals in the water(she'll luv it),soft music, candles all lit up.Even suggest to massage her shoulders & back while in the tub.Ask her about her day and the whole thing will fall through naturally.And then dinner(not neccesarily in that order).She'll b energized & ready 4 anything.U can do it.If dat doesn't work(sumthin's up,she ain't interested anymore), then lay down the law. After all u're only human.There's so much a man can take.

Answer 4

i think you should start with doing something together with the kids, this would be a good start as she will also think that you care for her child too. Try and go to a children park and let the kid play and then you and her can talk with each other. gradually you ask her for a dinner and then spell the magical words. You need to have real patience

Answer 5

I think doing something with her and her kids is a great idea. Show that you can love them just as much as you can her and I think she'll warm up more.

I'd try that and then try to get her to go out some weekend where she's been able to recharge from the workweek and when her family can watch the kids.

Answer 6

Most single moms are wary of guys that offer to help. To many guys pray on single moms by say they will do stuff for them or doing stuff for them. If she refuses she is probably just wary.

As far as time... well if she's worth it to you than except that she is tired. It's hard work being the mom and the dad and working full time AND living with her family has to be tough too. She will appreciate that you are understanding.

Just be patient.

Answer 7

It sounds like to me that she is not ready to date if she can't make time to make a date. I do not have children of my own. Usually it is preferable for me to date women without children. One of the reasons why is because of the problems you state in your question. Women with children usually do not have time to date you because their time is limited and they are busy with work and family.

When dating a woman with children, You want to adhere to a 3-6 month rule before meeting her children. You need to bond with the woman you are dating with before you bond with any children she may have. You don't want to be just another guy shacked up with mom. Make sure that there is some long-term potential and that she is comfortable introducing you to her family first. If she isn't willing or able to make time to date you, then you need to move on and find someone else.

Answer 8

Set it up with a friend of hers that likes you.... go to her house and have her friend come over and pick the kids up for a couple of hours. You make dinner, while showers and rest for a moment. If you are willing massage her feet after dining, let her talk, and LISTEN ! It works!

Answer 9

im a single mom of 3 i dont live at home but i know how she feels. shell like you more if you include her kids. plus if you dont click with the kids too its better to know early. impress the kids and take them to an amusement park or something. i had a guy who took the kids and i out for ice cream then we drove around looking at christmas lights. it was sweet. include the kids at first and shell start making timme for you once the kids like you. good luck

Answer 10

take them to the zoo. kids love the zoo and if u make the kids happy u make mom happy. u would be smart to do lots of stuff with all of them, so she can see what kind of person u would be around her most precious things on the earth. if she likes what she sees she will find time for the two of u alone.