he has never had a girlfriend and everytime we all go and hang out my brither always seems really sad! how can I help him find a girl? I honestly don't have any clues???my brother well don't anything to try and inpress a girl!!!and they always take him for a fool and use him for everything he has got???please I need help!!!?!??!?!?
2006-07-30 20:01:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You could encourage him to join a group, club, or organization of his interest to meet gals with similar interests...or if he doesn't already, encourage him to choose a church to attend and go to their functions. He has to get himself out there some in order for it to happen. I already know you will introduce him to someone you think might be a good choice for him. Go out with him from time to time...just the two of you...this will make it easier for him to meet new people. I used to go out with my brother for this purpose...I guess they took my presence as a sign he must be okay. He used to laughingly call me his "Chick Bait"...but (blush) it worked! Good Luck.
2006-07-30 20:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother is lucky to have you, and you abviously care about him and his feelings,
Your brother is gong thru an awkward stage, and being used by girls, and not knowing how to act around girls, can make him a target for a lot of rejection.
I do not think you can find him a girlfriend, it is not lthat easy, and you can easily go fiind a bike, or a car, or a pair of ski's but a human to be attracted to him is a big order,
My suggestion is if you are really serious, and want to help your brother get thru this stage of lhis life without too many negative experiences, is to hold llthose thoughts,
and "YOU" find some other friends, guys, maybe older, and more experienced, that you trust some what, and tell llthlem of this, and ask them for advice, and ask them if they would give your brother some good tips, it has to be a guy of your peers, but maybe older, and someone your brother respects, or admires, and maybe your brother will pay attention and take time to learn a few "social tips"
you can also find a group, a support group, of people of lyour age, where you all sit around and discusss similar problems,
Also church, there are great churches, that you can go and pay your respects to GOD, and meet nice people along the way, maybe a pastor can help, maybe the opportunity to meet nicer girls, will be there, and it will be a easier environment, for both or you,,
I hope you do help your brother, and i really admore you for the courage to go as far as asking for help,, dont quit,
you can have a tremendous influence on your brother,
and others,
good luck
2006-07-30 20:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever stop to ask if he is gay?
I am not being mean but he may be hiding his sexuallity from his family! Be gentle & polite about it!
My brother was a latent homophobe but never brought girls around... one night while he was drunk (I don't drink) I asked if he had been with a guy before & he finally told me everything!
Now he is open with MOST of the family but it takes time... most families are or claim to be Christian & still have a problem with the thought of a gay member of the fam!
Go slow be nice & if not... he may just have an anti social behavioral issue that there are treatments for!
2006-07-30 20:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋