I have been stuck in an abusive relationship for 2 years and I wanted to know how can I find the right"MAN" for me?
2006-07-30 19:45:35 · 24 answers · asked by Cassandra A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Concentrate of forming close friendships with single men without trying to take it to the next level. Without the pressures of dating, men are more at ease and show more of their true nature. After you have cultivated a solid base of good male friends, start looking into who has the qualities that you need to complete you. then throw out some signals, get a reaction and work from there.
2006-07-30 20:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get out of the abusive relationship. A good guy isn't going to date you while you're still in a relationship, even if it is with an abuser. Then, make a promise to yourself never to date someone like that again. After that, look for guys in the less obvious spots. The bars & nightclubs aren't necessarily always the best way to go. I know it sounds like a cliche', but try asking a guy's advice in the grocery store or a department store while he's shopping. You may attract his attention this way, & it's a good way to strike up a conversation. I had this happen once with a girl asking my opinion on a movie. We ended up talking for over half an hour, & exchanged numbers. Once you make the break from your abuser & get your own life in order, this may be a good way to start mingling again. I hope you leave soon, because you deserve better than to be abused. Best of luck.
2006-07-31 02:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JESUS GIRL!! ANYONE CAN DO BETTER! :) darling, you have your heart to give..thats all a man should need. If he is the capitol I T man, he will understand that. A little trial and error never hurts. Date a little, dont do online, and dont attend singles events... I know you have a guy you admire, take an extra step! Talk to the man. At the grocery store.. the cart can tell you a lot about a man. Around work.. But if hes the perfect one, you cant search for him.... You will find each other! Dont look for love, or you may never find it. Like the four leaf clovers, you only find one when you fall on your face or when you lie on the grass and one sticks to your hand. You never find them if you look :) good luck!
2006-07-31 02:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Imprimis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is get yourself out of that abusive relationship!!! You deserve so much better than what this person is giving you. It's hard to be on your own sometimes, but it's SOOOOO much better than being with someone who doesn't resepect you enough to treat you well. Please, leave this jerk--please don't just wait for someone else to come along because you might find yourself willing to settle for another abusive a*shole!
After that, you should get involved in your community. Do you have an interest that you like, or a hobby you're fond of? Get involved in something like that, and join groups of people who have similar interests. Make friends with someone first, and see where it goes.
Good luck, and PLEASE get out of that abusive relationship!
2006-07-31 02:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question my dear, are you still in the abusive relationship?If you are, then leave.If you're already out, then first give yourself time to put yourself together.Its not usually advisable to jump from one relationship directly into another.Give yourself time to think of what you really want and then the key to getting what's right for you is being yourself.Just be yourself and be firm with a lot of self confidence.Also, one little tip, let sex wait. The right person will be willing to wait until you're ready.
2006-07-31 02:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by hiahas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart!! Get out of the abusive relationship. Look for Mr right in the places good men hang out. He's there too.
2006-07-31 02:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by kram k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like being abused get unstuck first of all. Take some time for yourself to figure out clearly without any pressure-promise-pressure situation what you would like your "One" to be like. If you have something of a good picture either graphically or mentally it will be easier to find what you look for.
Other than that, feel your butterflies and when your breath is taken away look whodunnit. Don't be surprised if a strange feeling of recognition comes up.
2006-07-31 02:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself babe. Don't settle with the person that isn't perfect for you. If something doesn't sit right then don't excuse it. Listen to what you know is right. I know it seems impossible to find someone perfect but you won't be happy unless you do. And of course keep the kids out of it until you've found your man;) Good Luck girl
2006-07-31 02:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only through patience. But why are you remaining in this abusive relationship? Get out of it and be free.
2006-07-31 02:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, get out of the abusive relationship. no use in that, if you're gonna get stick in a rellationship, at least get a guy that will care about you. As far as the "right" guy goes, it just happens
2006-07-31 03:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jaymz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋