My friend is getting married and us, her friends, are arranging a couple's party where all of their close friends will attend. We have a problem with the budget. Is it right to make all the guests contribute some small amount for the event? If yes how do we collect the contributions? On the event itself??
Initially it was supposed to be just a bridal shower but was changed to shared bridal shower & stag party so is it okay to have male & female strippers at the same event?
2006-07-30 19:07:59 · 10 answers · asked by prettyfuljan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think strippers to a pre-wedding is basically saying "I don't respect my future wife/husband enough. I am not ready to settle down if I have to have enjoyment looking at another person sexually as a celebration". Come on now, be adults. Not some horny "teens" hitting puberty. Immoral and mocking the marriage committment.
I don't support the stripper idea.
As for the combined party, do as please. If you are going to combine it, it is tacky to make others pay for what you decide. If they decided as a whole, then it would be appropriate.
You can ask for donations. but don't expect it.
If on a low budget, then ask yourself if whatever items are needed and do they have to be the expensive kind. Or could it be an "off brand" that is good quality, but less expense.
After you got all supplies, then whatever they gave you can put towards in the bank account you went out of.
However, you can get a party committie going. Where you have at least 2 or 3 people who will put money and time towards it too. That should help out.
2006-07-30 20:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yuck!! Bachelor parties and Bachelorette parties are bad enough--but combined!! So couples are going to get together and watch strippers? I am totally grossed out!
Couples parties I've been to have been just a party (no stupid shower games), where the gifts are bridal gifts. You have some food, you talk to each other. Just a celebration.
We played one game. In advance someone had asked the bride and groom (separately) a bunch of questions and videotaped their answers. At the party, they played the question and asked the bride or groom to predict what their fiance said in the tape. Then they played the answer. It was funny and entertaining, and we learned a lot about the couple. And no one had to take their clothes off.
You can ask close friends if they would like to contribute some money to your party, but it should be optional. Usually you ask for the money before the event and you have them sign a card that you will give to the couple.on behalf of all those who contributed.
2006-07-30 19:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow people sure are uptight these days. I'd hate to go to any bridal showers these posters throw in the future.
If the couple is ok with it then it shouldn't be a problem. Perhaps you should try to have the party in a place where there are two separate rooms.
I'm not sure how many men want to see a near naked male dancer at a stag party- and vice versa for the women.
You can't force people to give money- ask for donations nicely but don't depend on it. People will be put off and some may turn down the invite if you ask for money the wrong way.
2006-07-30 23:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by lix321 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god what a bunch of uptight boring people you are!
I would say yes, and do what lix said, have the strippers isolated into a specific room (one for males, one for females). There's nothing raunchy, or disgusting, about strippers.
Where I'm from, it's standard to sell tickets for a Jack and Jill, especially is you're providing all the alcohol. The stuff is expensive. I wouldn't charge more than $20 a person. Every one that I have been to/heard of has done that, and no one has a problem with it. Lighten up people!
2006-07-31 02:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, while I honestly think strippers in any variety are gauche and horribly tasteless, having both male and female strippers at the same party takes gauche and tasteless to a new extreme...to maybe something along the bordello extreme. I wouldn't do it.
2006-07-30 19:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having strippers is enough but don't have them at a prewedding party if you want dancers have separate parties like a bachelor or bachlorette party because it would be a whole lot of fun
2006-07-30 19:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by TIONNA J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly RUDE to have GUESTS pay for an event in any way. That is the responsibility of the HOST(s).
I also advise you to find some way of having fun entertainment that does not involve the sex industry, which is exploitative and criminal.
2006-07-31 11:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, yes!
Don't forget it's just a party and it's all in good fun. And it's now become a custom.
Find yourself a good entertaining performer and your guests will rave about it for years to come.
I guarantee it!...
2006-07-31 01:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by leeontherun 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bad idea!
2006-07-30 21:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no- not a good idea
2006-07-30 19:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋