I am 18 years old and recently began to have sex; before I didn't used to worry about the common question of "does he really like me or does he only want me for sex?", yet it has been common among my friends that the guy their seeing usually isn't ever there for them unless there's a festival inside their pants. I have yet to fall under such a sad case but it is a question I'd like to know the answere to since now in days there are many people (girls included) that know how to fake affection towards someone with the sole purpose of getting into their bed.
2006-07-30 18:56:56 · 18 answers · asked by ⓡⓐⓠⓤⓔⓛ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it is really hard to tell if they want you,just to get into your pants or not because they might just want it because they really like you but it is up to you and how much you want the same thing. It is just a feeling you have and how much you really respect yourself ( remember sex is not a bad thing between two people who want to share it because they are comfortable with it and really love each other). I don't think we will ever know if people do things to be Malicious or if there is really love and feelings involved (there are alot of con-artist out there), so just remember: actions speak louder than words so if there are no force fullness or obsession being done than I don't think you need to worry just do what you feel is wright and if you respect yourself then they will have no choice but to respect you too.
2006-07-30 19:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by viki 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rachel,
Here's the best way to know....tell them you plan on not having sex until you get married and then see if they hang around. Give it 5 or 6 months of abstinence, just be friends, and see how he reacts. If he still hangs around and doesn't pressure you for sex (or other sexual things) then he is probably really into you.
Personally, I think you should wait until you get married anyway. Most of the married women I know wish that they had NOT had sex with other men before their husband. Pregnancy, STD's, getting used for sex, etc. all are potential outcomes of having sex, not to mention the mental/emotional aspect of it (which can really suck if a guy you have sex with dumps you or cheats on you). I also had sex when I was 18, and looking back on it now....I totally wish I had waited until I was married. Thank God I didn't get pregnant or an STD, but many, MANY of my girlfriends did and it really messed up some of their lives.
If you do continue to have sex, please use a condom and another reliable form of birth control. Protect yourself from the many nasty diseases out there and be sure you don't bring a baby into this situation.. Good luck to you.
2006-07-31 02:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by nvone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters a way to find out is to NOT have sex with the person first. Be up front with the guy and tell him you what you are looking for. if he just is looking for sex then he will be on his way, but if he is looking for a relationship also then chances are he will be willing to wait for it. I am 39 years old and base this information on my own life experiences. Good luck and happy dating!
2006-07-31 02:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by msmikki67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really doesn't want sex, just to share in your company, then the topic will not be brought up by him at all. He will be content to just talk with you, or hold hands, or hang out. Maybe kiss or cuddle, but he will never sudgest that you have sex. He will let YOU be the one to bring it up when you are ready. At that time, if he REALLY respects you, he will tell you that he wants to wait.
2006-07-31 02:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, usually, for me, if they sound too good to be true. You know, a sweet talker. Also, female instinct should tell you some sort of feeling on that subject. Oh, and if they party a lot...then you know what's up.
2006-07-31 02:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by roverriffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that your doctor has told you that you cannot have sex, ever, for some reason. See how he reacts. he should be concerned of course but not drop you suddenly. you can vary this story as you see fit.
maybe just say you have herpes and cannot have sex. something like that.
somebody who truly likes you for yourself will not stop seeing you right away.He may stray eventually but it will be a sincere struggle for him. so test him.
2006-07-31 02:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, first, i love the phrase "festival inside their pants" sorry, i love words.
anyway, to be serious. idk. if you don't care about sex, then just make him wait a really long time before you agree to have it. if he sticks around and is still great, then you know he likes you. sorry, that's probably unrealistic advice, but it's all i got
2006-07-31 02:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl's virginity is precious. Act wisely.
2006-07-31 02:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by calpal2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he wants to get to know YOU and not your body, that's how. If he doesn't ask you about yourself, you can pretty much muster up that he's not interested in you except physically.
2006-07-31 02:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by goblue_um_78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sleep with him - :\ simple..u shouldn't b sleeping with someone just b/c u like them- ur 18 geez - (i'm 15lol) u shouldn't be having this problem... if he stays around u know he's really cares for u- if pressures u...slap him up
2006-07-31 02:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋