hi ..im an 18 yr old girl starting college soon...i have been with my bf for 2 years and he is a wonderful guy and ive never met anyone like him...he loves me a lot and is committed to me...i love him too and we have a good rship...
however i feel suffocated in this rship when my friends and colleagues at past workplaces say that i shouldnt check out guys and talk abt them as much as i do...i say that im not married to my bf and whats wrong with me thinking abt other guys..also, i like this guy from my workplace a lot and have told my bf abt...he has been very understanding abt it and says that he wont leave the girl he loves just because she has a crush on someone...i know it hurts him and i feel bad but i really like this other guy..but i love my bf 100 times more..dont wana leave him..he's also my best friend..anyways i know i cant get together with the other guy cos he's from a different religion and moreover he says he thinks of me as his sister...i feel so disgusted by that..
2006-07-30 18:38:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sms the other guy and talk to him on messenger and email him everyday...i also meet up with my bf..today i didnt kiss my bf when he wanted to but i backed away after a while..i cant until i have that other guy in my mind..i have liked other guys before while in this rship..i continued to like the guy i liked before i met my bf even after we were together..then i also liked a guy friend of mine for a while...he recently stopped being friends with me and this is when all this happened...i have hurt my bf so much but i dont wana feel bad abt it...the thing that hurts me the most is the other guy thinks of me as sister..sighs...views pls..
2006-07-30 18:41:38 · update #1
my bf is going to the same college as me...i dont intend to tell anyone we are together so i can see how man guys like me..and i want to make more friends...also..shd i go out for lunch ith the other guy?...my bf sais if i go it would hurt him because he knows that i like the guy and he's not just a friend...help....
2006-07-30 18:45:57 · update #2
Hey girl,
Don't do anything to hurt you bf if he is really as good as you say he is, It is so difficult to find a good guy. I just graduated from high school and I'm about to start college so I'm telling you from experience.
If you feel suffocated ask for a little space, it is totally understandable.
But telling your bf you have a crush, men that is bad, imagine if the situation was reversed and your boyfriend told you he had a crush.
It is understandable to like someone you are human after all, But IMing, emailing the person every day is bad. I consider it a form of cheating
If you want out of the relationship come straight out and tell your bf.
I hope you make the right choice.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 18:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Floating on air. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sound like you love b/f, but you love his ways. Try talkn to him about an open relationship, this way you both can shop around and see if it really is love or just the idea of losing him as a friend that stops you from fallin for someone else. and you won't have to feel so bad in the process cuz he has the choice to find out if your what he really wants also. Also as far as other friend saying he thinks of you as sister, could just be his way of stayn close to you without messin ur mind cuz he knows your already involved with someone, to find out for sure what his reason is for saying wot he did bout sister, I would be straight with him and ask him if you weren't involved would he have diff. thought. Good Luk.
2006-07-31 02:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you listen to your friend and colleagues. Unless you are doing something wrong, I donot think it should bother you. You and your boyfriend have a great relationship and am happy that the two of you communicate. Stop feeling guilty about checking out another guy but please do not act on your feelings. You guy is one in a million and he trurly loves you. Am suggesting that you try to ignore the other guy by doing some reverse psychology, try figuring out his flaws and am sure, you might not like him that much.
2006-07-31 01:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fantasy you are having about your coworker is a ridiculous, you are going to ruin your future with someone who is obviously loves you and is a good person for nothing. You need to wake up, he's already told you kindly he's not interested in you. Your boyfriend deserves better than the treatment he's getting. Sorry for being so brutal, but you asked.
2006-07-31 01:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mercedes_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to appreciate what you have at home, and stop lusting over other men! Why risk it? If he's all that you say he is then you have a keeper! Girl, a good man is hard to find. Don't mess it up for yourself! I promise you, you will regret cheating on him ( if you do) cause what goes around, comes around! If you let him go he'll find someone else that deserves him and treats him better! Then when you realize what you've lost it will be too late for you. Don't be STUPID!
2006-07-31 01:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by echeetah_pyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth be told, if you break up with your current boyfriend, you'll feel worse now for sure. Taking a gamble at the future though.
Don't gamble off your boyfriends like that, what happens if your #2 man turns out to be the worlds worse dater? You'd be stuck alone.
Stay with #1.
2006-07-31 01:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Simcow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sound like you really dont know how you feel about
these two men, and you need to be honest with yourself,
then be honest with them if you are having feeling for
someone else then maybe you need to talk to your
boyfriend, and for the fact you are are going to college
soon. may be the best advice is to leave both them along
until you fiqure what you want.
2006-07-31 01:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks of you as a sister, then you should back off, unless you live in Kentucky where that kind of thing is acceptable
2006-07-31 01:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by Eureka R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
My question is HOW CAN YOU LIKE OTHER GUY WHILE YOU ARE IN TRUE LOVE WITH ANOTHER GUY WHO IS REALLY LOVES YOU EVEN YOU ALSO FEELS THAT "HE IS WONDERFUL GUY THAT YOU EVER MET" AND "LOVES HIM 100 TIMES MORE"
My opinion is better to you to stay with number 1 lover...........don't confused and puzzled your mind.
Stay close with your TRUE LOVE
2006-07-31 01:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love over like
2006-07-31 01:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋