Okay so here's the deal; my boyfriend is totally in love with me and he's great! Sweet, loving, caring and pretty much the perfect guy to me. The thing is, he loves me more than I love him. We've known eachother for YEARS because of our families. About 3 years ago he started to care for me and later on I found myself feeling for him, so we ended up together. So I've been pretty happy but lately I just cant see us as a "together forever" thing. I just can't! But he does. I still care about him a lot but I think I'm being selfish and it feels like a lie when I say I love you back. I'm not sure if I should break up with him or not. I know I don't see us together forever, but I feel as if I'm not quite ready to let him go just yet (and that's what makes me think I'm selfish) I'm just so confused and have no idea what I feel anymore. I'm young, I wanna live and have fun still. I don't think I'm ready for that kind of love yet. So, what should I do? Any advice...? =/
2006-07-30 18:22:20 · 8 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's funny, I've been through something simalar to this. The guy I went out with was really sweet and cared about me a lot, but I just didn't like him. I tried going out with him, but I just couldn't stand that I didn't love him, and I broke up with him.
My advice for you is this: tell your boyfriend how you feel.Maybe you could wait a while and see if things get better. Maybe you can just break up for a while, and if you start to feel for him again, you can go out with him again. Or maybe you both can move on.
He may be heart-broken for a while, but he'll get over it, and move on. If he really loves you, he'll understand. The least you both could do is still be friends.
I hope you two can work things out; Good Luck.
2006-07-30 18:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Cricket:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him the truth about how you feel more than likely he's sensing something wrong anyway. Know when it comes to love that it's not about you, but about the other person you're with. It takes two to make it work. If you can't give that to him then you're already cheating him aren't you? Love isn't something you fall in or out of... it's a choice you make. Just like being with him. you may not be able to see yourself with him forever, but do you see yourself sixty years old (probably not)Next question is do you wanna see yourself regretting decisions? or sixty and alone? or him with another girl? You may just try to do new things together you could just be board in general. You may perhaps open the dating lines again to see other people... you will probably find that many of the guys you date will be jerks wanting one thing and that he's the one you really wanna be with, but will it be too late?
2006-07-30 19:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He adores you, you lucky thing. He will be devastated when you tell him. He may even break down and cry. This is no small thing you're contemplating. Nevertheless, it is the right and honest course. You have to tell him and as soon as possible. Make sure you're alone when you do and that you can leave by yourself once you've broken his heart, i.e. two cars or whatever.
2006-07-30 18:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him the truth. tell him that you want to have some space and some time to yourself for awhile. let him know its not because you dont love him, its because you want to experience life on your own for awhile. you want to establish independence for yourself, and get your goals and your life together before making a forever commitment to anyone. the longer you wait, the harder it will be and the more you will desire to see whats on the other side. if he truly loves you like you say, he should understand. he might be mad, but he will understand. if its meant to be, you will get back together.
2006-07-30 18:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by kantriella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple. If it doesn't FEEL right, it ISN'T right. Do not cheat yourself out of life by living a lie. Be honest with him. He will be hurt, and you will be too. But if you don't have the same feelings by now, it's never happening.
2006-07-30 18:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him what you wrote in the question..don't lead him on anymore..end it don't live a lie..he deserves someone who'll love him back and you need to find someone you can love..just tell him how you feel and maybe you can remain friends..good luck
2006-07-30 18:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by yowww kelly clarkson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't have feelings for you anymore." that's the best way to break up with a guy. Sounds bad but in the end it's easiest for everyone.
2006-07-30 18:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Thundercow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-30 19:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by dinesh r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋