I just got dumped. How do I get over it?

Question

My 1st bf of 2 months just dumped me by the jerkiest email I think I've ever gotten.
How do i get over it?? I really loved him!!

coping with it long term

ya.....our "song" was by avril lavigne.....I've already cried LOTS...
My bro is his bff

read my other questions. i don't blame him 4 not doing it face 2 face, cuz we never c each other.

Answer 1

i'm sorry to hear that he seemed like a loser anyways by dumping you by e-mail i mean cmon the guy didn't have the balls to come up to you.

Answer 2

I know you're very young because I've read some of your other questions, so this type of thing is new to you and very painful ( that's understandable; in fact, this portion of relationships never gets more comfortable to deal with, BUT...)you get over it by looking at a few facts: your boyfriend dumped you by e-mail...now, he's young so he probably doesn't know any better yet and I give him the benefit of youthful error there, but that's just not done. It's a cowardly way to handle one's business. So you can feel better about being rid of someone who would treat you so thoughtlessly. This will ache for awhile, and there may be some awkward moments, too since he's your brother's friend, but it will pass and you'll be fine. When you're ready, meet some other schoolmates and broaden your friendship base. It doesn't mean you're looking for another boyfriend, it just means that you're hunting for fresh perspectives to help the healing process go smoother. ( But before you know it, someone else will pop up on the horizon...I guarantee it.) Good luck to you. P.S. Don't give in to the temptation to contact him through your brother.

Answer 3

Well first of all he was a jerk if he couldn't even do it on the phone. It reminds me of my first bf who broke up with my machine and then proceeded to send my pictures of the women he'd been with. But back to you, how do you get over him? Honestly time, its one of the most hated words but its true. right now your heart is broken and all you can do is let it heal dont let anyone try and put a timing on when you should be over it because ultimately you have to heal and you take all the time you need. But dont just sit at home keep your mind occupied by working and doing activates you enjoy because that way you wont relive the moments as often as you would if you were hanging out. I hope u have a good friend you can tell your issues to who doens't mind listening no matter how much you talk about it. But dont fall into the trap and try to over analyze the situation and try to make him get back with you because its not worth it, he's not worth it because he couldn't even tell you that the relationship is over in person. that let's you know about his true character. Im just now healing from my bestfriend (guy) and good friend getting together and we had something off and on for a year but it really does take time. Baby steps all the way. Some days will be good, others bad, and some times worse. But its through the brokenness that God is able to come in a heal your heart. It might not seem like it now, but God is always present and he will take all your pain away, if you let him. But its a slow process. you will get through it, what doens't kill you makes you stronger plus God will never give you more than you can bare. I hope this helps at least a little...good luck

Answer 4

I am so sorry. I am sure you feel like the whole situation is unfair. Gal you have got what it takes to move on. I am not saying just ignore the fact that you have being left. Try enagaging in activities that will take your mind over the whole situation. Let your brother know the current situation to avoid him bring his friend in your cribs. Kindly do not pressure your brother to break up with his friend coz in a few days to come, you will not feel good about it. Go and get with your friends and do all the stuff you enjoy. Talk with them about the situation. Remember out there is another special someone waiting just to meet you.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry. I got dumped by my first (and only, so far) boyfriend by e-mail and it hurt so much. I really know how you feel. The best thing is time. It doesn't seem like it now, but every day will get a little easier. Also, try to listen to music that makes you happy, surround yourself with people you care about, and keep busy with hobbies you enjoy. Cry when you need to, but try to enjoy your life despite the pain. It really will get better. :)

Answer 6

Just cry your eyes out because you will feel a little better and relieved. talk to someone especially a close friend or relative. I like to write in journals in order to express my feelings. this is very therapeutic. you will be sad for a while but the you will be ready to attack the world and find a great man. and guess what you jerky boyfriend may be jealous. In life you will unfortunately love men who will break your heart. however prince charming will come and will not make you sad anymore. good luck

Answer 7

You will not believe it now, but one day this will be in your past, and you'll be in a happy, loving relationship with someone who is worth your time. Meanwhile, explore your interests and grow as a person. That way, when you are ready, you will meet someone who is a quality person...and meanwhile, all the new stuff you do will help to crowd out the old memories.

Answer 8

Listen to Avril Lavigne and cry lots.

Answer 9

This is the same guy you were sick to death of a week ago? The one who wouldn't ever answer his phone, whose over-protective parents you hated, who you wanted to break up with ... this guy? Well, you got your wish.
That doesn't mean that breaking up by email is anything but incredibly tacky. Face it, he was an immature dork like all the others. Find someone who deserves you.

Answer 10

Well the best thing is to go and talk to someone like a friend and with your friend go to your boyfriend and ask what was wrong and if you and him could try to get togeter again and try to avoid the same mistake. Well I hope you feel better, I'm here if you still need help.

Answer 11

well, he obviously is 1)a jerk, and 2) not very smart, or he would not have dumped you. you really loved him, so it hurts. yeah, and it hurts when you hit your thumb with a hammer, too, but eventually it goes away.

the only thing that will really help, I think, is to stay busy and keep your mind off of the relationship. just don't let it keep re-running in your brain. work hard, study hard, sign up for volunteer stuff, anything to keep too busy to dwell on it...oh, but give yourself first one whole evening just to cry over it first. your first love costs you lots of tears, but you will remember the pain and stay away from jerks, right?