My parents seem to have picked a favorite child. My brother.THe odd thing is is he is older than me. They just through me aside and play with him. Like my computer all of ours are all in 1 area but they through mine into a dark corner. So im seperated from them by likr 15 feet.I think they hate me. If i do something they act dissapointed and yell at me.But they dont do anything to him.They call all of my favorite shows stupid. And dont acknowledge my precense.How do i make them like me and play with me. I dont want to talk to them SO DONT SUGGEST IT.Im just not the kind of person who likes to talk about my "feelings".
2006-07-30 17:55:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry about the miss spellings. Still learning how to type.
2006-07-30 17:55:54 · update #1
btw im 11 and yes i dont talk to them a bit but they seem to tune me out or get mad.
2006-07-30 18:05:03 · update #2
do** not dont
2006-07-30 18:05:17 · update #3
btw my the brother im talking about isnt the oldest i have another who just went to college
2006-07-31 09:39:56 · update #4
This sounds like a regular old case of sibling rivalry to me. You will get over it in a few yrs but is common among families and children of your age group. I know that is of no help now but you better suck it up. As the oldest (first child syndrome) he will always seem to be treated better. He will be able to do things and get things first not because he is loved more it is just that he is older.
You may not like to talk about your feelings but if you dont tell our mom and dad how you are feeling - they will never know how this affects you. Dont let this fester up to long or else things might get said in anger that can never be taken back. I have three kids but most parents always have a special place for their first born - not because they love him more but they are the first living symbol of the love of your parents. My second child has many different qualities and I have a special spot for him also because he always felt leftout being second, always got hand me downs as the first born got everything new cause he was oldest. My third is a girl and she hold a very special spot cause she is my only girl. Boys suck...hehe...Talk to your parents. I am positive that there is a special place for you as an individual in there hearts you just havent realized where your place is yet but when you do i am also sure that it will be a place that you will be able to use to your advantage every time your turn comes up. This is happening all over the world. Just talk to your Mom. I am sure that she thinks of you as her little princess and would be hurt to think that you are feeling hurt and left out. Moms get it.....
Eleven is hard.......
2006-07-30 19:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by saultdebbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I wish I could help you, but, except for talking to them or another adult, I have no idea what you can do! It's really hard to assess a family dynamic over the internet.
You seem like a really nice kid and it's too bad that your parents don't take a good look at you and realize how lucky they are! Don't they know what a lot of other kids your age are like?? If they did, they would be grateful to have a wonderful and caring child!
How old is your brother? If it's a baby, then I can see how this situation can occur, without your parents realizing how this affects you.
If there are two parents in a home, then I don't see how they can't spend quality time with all of their children.
If you lived in a single parent home, with that parent working, I could see how time and energy would be limited, but this is clearly not true in your case! Therefore, I cannot help or explain the cause to you.
If it makes you feel better, I grew up with 5 brothers and 3 sisters, and in a single parent home after I was 10 years old. I was grateful if either of my parents remembered my name and my Birthday! LOL!!!
ALSO....Don't believe that your parents hate you! They love you very much, they are just forgetting to tell and/or show you! But, remember this no matter what!
2006-07-30 18:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by *ღ♥۩ THEMIS ۩♥ღ* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's the problem...you're not communicating with them. If you don't like to talk, perhaps you are isolating yourself from your family. I know it's hard for you, but communication is the one of the most important factors in any type of relationship. If you don't tell people how you feel, how will they know? They aren't mind readers and if they don't know how you feel about what is going on, their behavior will continue. It takes effort on both parties and it sounds like it's going to be you who has to make the initial move. Good luck.
2006-07-30 18:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Miss U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems you are a teenager young one... do one thing.. think positively regarding your family members.. if they yell at you.. still take it positively.. .. try to enter into their minds... you ar young so this would be a bigger task for you at this age... you suggest your doctor, or some closely related member to your family to say about this and solve this problem.. ask any one else to make your family understand what you are felling..
2006-07-30 18:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by MADDY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Do you have grandparents to talk to? I suggest that's where you should start, sweetheart.
2006-07-30 17:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by professionalfemale01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋