what should i do, what is the best way to deal with the situation. im going to be gone for about 3 years and i might have to stay longer if they need me. what do i do??????????????
2006-07-30 17:27:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
we been together 4 years and her mom told me that she would make sure she stays "good" we are getting marired when i get out. maybe if we still love eachother but what would you do?
2006-07-30 17:30:44 · update #1
her mother wont let me marry her now. only until she gets her degree
2006-07-30 17:35:21 · update #2
Recently there is a story, where a women waited for her lover for about 7 years, cause her lover is in jailed.
So, as compare to your 3 years, is nothing lah... just take it easy and let it progress naturally.
Going to army does not cut your communication off completely from your gf or your family.
2006-07-30 17:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by shin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not best way of saying goodbye. This is a painful moment for both of you. I think the two of you should try to make use of the time you have together wisely. I am not of the suggestion you get married coz distance relationship have their constraints, so do marriage. My advice would be you try a long distance relationship. I am sure if the two of you were meant to be together, three years will pass by and if an extension does occur, she will not even notice it, coz love will just guide your way.
Remember the saying that if love was meant to be, it can overcome everything. You just need to work hard to make sure it works. Utilize the few moments you have together now.
2006-07-30 17:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years are not to long,my husband is gone for most of the past 4 years(exept his 2 week R&R every 6 Month)It would make more sense for you to get married now especially finacially!After her Degree she could join you on post (free rent and utilities if you live on Base) or if you are deployed she could stay with her Mom.My son married his Highschool Sweetheart right out of Basic.I wasnt to happy about it at first but her mom will get used to the thought eventually.I agree that she should get her degree first,once you guys are married chances are she wont finish School
2006-07-30 18:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by petra0609 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either shes gonna stay or not, you need to ask her this question before you go so you will know if you need to be faithful, tell her you wanna stay with her but if either of you are going to have issues staying faithful its not gonna work 3 years is a long time. and if either of you cant handle that then its unavoidable and you might as well end it now and maybe when you get back yall can start over again catch up with each other and see what happens
2006-07-30 17:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by puresplprix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would move with you if possible. I am assuming that you are being stationed somewhere, not just going to basic. If so why don't you get married now, or have her move with you, get a job and rent an apartment of base.
If you have been together for four years why not get married now instead of waiting until you get out.
2006-07-30 17:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by paige_98_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u go ahead and get married? She can go to school were u are stationed...I'm a military wife, and i see this all the time, it hardly ever works out, they relationship always ends, its just to hard to do the long distance thing. Thats why i say get married if u really love each other
2006-07-30 17:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you are not married, she has NO REASON to wait for you and it is unfair of you to make her wait.
If I dropped dead tomorrow, I would expect my wife to wait one year and 1 day before seeing other men.
# years is a very long time to such young people.
I respect your decision to serve, but you can't have everything.
If she can't serve with you, then let her go.
Besides her mother is covering for her. Neither of them has any plans to wait for you. She will meet plenty of other men while she earns her degree. And university is a notorious hotbed of anti military thinking. She is probably gone to you already.
2006-07-30 19:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by aka DarthDad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I joined my girlfriend did not want me to join either. We have been married for 9 years and she loves all the benefits of the Army. One piece of advise, try to get her to join also. You will really love your paycheck and the Army is a great way for women to advance.
2006-07-30 17:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that once you are done with basic training and get to where you will be stationed you can usually get an apartment off base and you could ask her to come live with you. Assuming that you are not going to a war zone.
2006-07-30 17:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by cashcobra_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off,sorry but it's gotta be said, make out your will.As far as the g/f is concerned just reassure her that u will call her and write her.She is going to be sad no matter what u do.Sorry.
2006-07-30 17:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by ... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋