Hi, i am 21 and my bf is 30. we are deeply in love. but unable to marry soon as there is some problem. he loves kids so do i. and since i have irregular menses i always think i unable to bare kids. if i will to marry later my bf will be getting old and i think he won't be able to makes kids.so i am eagar to have a kid cause i want to see how he or she would look like. and since he love kids and always wanted them i thought of giving it to him. but he says he doesn't want to have kids b4 the marriage. so wat can i do? i really want it cause i came from a family full of hatred. i want this gift from god to make myself happy. is my wishes ok?
2006-07-30 17:00:02 · 8 answers · asked by Minnalgal 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Men can produce sperm pretty much until they die, so don't worry about him.
2006-07-30 17:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage, he said it also! If you have a baby now it could break you two apart. Wait and see IF you do get married. Problems can happen and you already have some problems so wait and see.He may not really want to get married.If you had a bad family life you really know how it feels and shouldn't want to bring a baby into the world without the best home possible with a loving and stable married mom and dad! Think! And a baby is not a gift to him only. He can leave and not take the baby and you will be raising it alone!Think!!
2006-07-31 00:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really only a question the 2 of you should be answering. If you have a child and he is not ready for it, will he leave? Lots of "older people " have children. 30 even 40 is not old. Your past family life experiences should not play into your family plans for your future. If you love the guy the 2 of you should set a date. And I think it does sound a little selfish to say you want a baby to make yourself happy. Think long and hard before you commit to anything that affects at least 3 lives.
2006-07-31 00:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by chrissm2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off to good gynecologist and have a complete workup done & medical history taken.
There are numerous causes for irregular mentruation. (including Olympic training where the body fat to other mass is too low etc. etc.).
Men in their seventies have fathered children. e.g. Charlie Chaplin who was siring offspring yearly, in his eighties.
300 is not a problem for a man to help you conceive.
Good luck,
Dan.
Dino Then what is the common medical condition called viropause?
2006-07-31 00:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dan S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only chicks go through menopause.
If you're not careful, you can get knocked up by an 80 year old. So don't worry about how long it takes to get married, so long as you marry him while he's still alive.
2006-07-31 00:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by dinochirus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of anyone wanting to have a child so they could see what they look like. Are you old enough to understand once this child is here he or she is here to stay? You cant just put it back once you've seen "what it looks like". Are you sure your 21? My advice would be to wait until you have some of lifes experiences, it doesnt sound like you mature enough yet. Good luck!
2006-08-03 23:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure that you are having children for the right reason? I suggest counseling to make sure you want them for the right reasons now, then couples counseling to work out the problem you wrote for.
2006-07-31 00:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by meggi1123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound like a kid!!!
2006-07-31 00:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by happymixer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋