He's been my friend since Kindegarten and he has lived right next door to me for the past 8 yrs. Everyone is always saying how great he is and how me and him should go out, but everytime someone would say that we'd think that was disgusting. But i dont anymore. I feel like if i tell him how i feel though that i'll lose that great friendship.
2006-07-30 16:22:46 · 23 answers · asked by scaredestgurlalive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. My suggestion would be to hold off and not say anything. This guy's been in your life for a very long time... he's not going anywhere. What you're feeling may be a phase that will pass. If it is, you'll be glad you didn't risk your friendship with him over a phase. On the other hand, if this is the 'real deal' it won't go away.
It might help to sit down and write about when your feelings for him changed and what was happening in both of your lives at the time. It could be that something triggered this change in feelings... like he got a new girlfriend, he's going off to college, he's getting married, or something else is starting to (or threatening to) take some of his time away from you. If you can figure out why your feelings changed, maybe that will help you figure out if what you're feeling is really love or something else.
2006-07-30 16:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by craftygirl001 1 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Hey. . . this is definately a touchy situation but you have to go for it at some point and you know it! Ideally your significant other should be your best friend so you already have that in your corner. I'm sure this guy has picked up signals that you want more as well. Just make sure if you start seeing each other romantically . . that you make a pact to always remain friends no matter what happens. If you are already best friends then I can assume you respect each other and have no problems putting the other person first. These are the building blocks of a great romantic relationship as well. I am romantically involved with my best friend and I know her and I will be together forever! Just take it slow and be honest with this guy! It will all work out in the end. Good luck!
2006-07-30 23:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with your best friend could be great or bad. Sometime's friends make good boyfriends and sometime's they don't. All I can say is go for it and tell him how your feel. If he agrees to turn the relationship into more than just friendship. Make sure you make him promise that the two of you will still be cool no matter what happens given the two of you break up. Cause in the result of a break up things can get nasty, worse than any other break up with some random guy. Mainly because you will be losing a boyfriend and a best friend at the same time.
2006-07-30 23:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a friend of mine who I've known for 10 years and after a year and a half of dating, we're still best friends even though we never got married. I think it was something we personally had to do and he and I made that choice knowing what was on the line. If you'd rather just have your friendship remain status quo, then stay friends. If you're wanting to date just because people are pressuring you, stay friends. If you genuinely know that you two sincerely have a heartfelt friendship and you'd like to see if there's something beyond that, it's always worth it. Love should be worth it all the time. My friend and I are still really close. We just made a commitment to remain friends. It works when both people are on board. Remember the proverbial saying "Love like you've never been hurt..."
2006-07-30 23:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my best friend a couple years ago and it didn't work out now we're not friends any more. I really regret it like soooooo bad. But like people always say... either most people are different and will still be your friend or you can follow your heart. Either way you'll still be taking some kind of risk, right? Good luck
2006-07-30 23:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
I have had a similar situation. You have to sit down and assess how YOU really feel. Are your feelings strong enough to take a chance at making him feel uncomfortable for a bit? I mean, if you can't quit thinking of him, just ask him if you guys were strangers that met on the street, would he ask you out. Make him think you're having guy problems or something.
2006-07-30 23:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by kb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how awesome =)
i say tell him how you feel. let him know that in no way do you want to risk losing his friendship, but you felt that you needed to be honest with him as you respect him as your friend before anything else.
perhaps test the waters a little first and let your heart tell you whether it is the right time or not.
one way or the other, at least you know you have an amazing friend by your side.
good luck hon =)
2006-07-30 23:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by natty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of yall goin out on a so called date why dont yall have a family bbq or both of you go do fun things as friends...Wouldnt hurt...Allow him to really get to know the real you as you get to know him...He may be aware of how you feel and you never know dear, he may have feelings for you but is afraid to let you know..Go and enjoy life as friends and if it is meant for more than friendship then it will surely happen...Have fun ..I pray all goes well and yall really get the answers you are seeking..God bless ya
2006-07-30 23:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel.Don't tell him all your feelings about him though because you have to remember he's a guy,they're different than us girls.You don't want to scare him away.Don't ask him what he's thinking or feeling either.If he wants you to know,he'll tell you.Who knows,he may like you too.You may not want to risk your friendship but if he's a true friend,he won't stop being your friend just because you like him.Hope this helps and everything turns out well.
2006-07-30 23:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest is ALWAYS the best policy. Worst case scenario is that your friendship will end. The question is...was it really that good a friendship if it couldn't withstand your telling him the truth? Best case scenario. He might feel the same way.
2006-07-30 23:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋