i am 15 and my mom goes out to the bar and her and her friend bring home strange drunk men that i have never meet and it makes me uncomfurtable having strangers in my house i ask my mom to make them leave but she doesnt
do i have the right to call the cops?
2006-07-30 16:19:19 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No because it's your moms hosue and they aren't doing anything to you but if they do anything to you than you have every right to call the cops!
2006-07-31 05:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can call the cops. But you might want to enlist a family friend or another family member for help first before doing this. Try to get an adult to talk to that you trust and tell them the situation to see if you can either get away from the situation for a bit (leaving might wake your mom up a bit) or if they can be there to talk with your mom along with you. Sounds like your mom doesn't realize the havoc she's causing you.
Calling the cops might not really do anything, if the "guests" are "invited" in, they might not be able to do anything. It will just tell your mom you don't like the situation and make her mad at you. If your mom is drinking and is drunk it might not be a good situation after the cops leave.
2006-07-30 16:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by keyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely have the right to call the cops! She may own the house, but it is your home as well. You have every right to feel comfortable in your own home! I'm not sure what exactly the police can do for you, but they will know the resources to get you the help you need.
You can also call child protective services on her. The national hotline is 1-800-4achild. 1-800-422-4453. Also talk to your school counselor, a granparent, an Aunt or Uncle, a teacher, your principle. Any adult that you trust.
What she's doing isn't right and it should be stopped before one of these men hurt you.
2006-07-30 16:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every person has the right to protect themselves. If you feel in danger or threatened, call. The police may not respond to certain situations but that is only because of the law, their hands are tied.
Some things to think about is in calling the authorities this may launch an investigation into your mother and your living situation. I'm not trying to scare you but it's true. If it is determined you are in an unsafe condition, the authorities can remove you from your home and place you in foster care or with other relatives. This may be a good thing depending on your situation. An investigation may "wake up" your mom or it could make things worse, only you can determine this. If reporting her is something that does not sound good to you, as much as you do not like your mom's lifestyle; may be you can work out with her when she is going out to party and bringing home "friends" you can stay at a friends or family member's house. If you have to be home, stay in your room, maybe with a lock on your door, and keep a phone near by (just in case). Best of luck to you!
2006-07-31 00:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by 4 Eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are doing something wrong like breaking the law or hurting you or your mom, yes you have the right to call the police. If their just drunk and not bothering anyone, unfortunately you do not have a good reason to call the police. Mon should not bring these strangers home because you never know what someone is capable of doing, especially under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Your age has nothing to do with calling the police.
2006-07-30 16:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! If they are creating a disturbance, breaking any laws, hurting your mom, or hurting you in any way. If they are hurting you please call 911 immediately. You can google 1800 numbers for abuse hotlines as well.
If they are only an annoyance to you because you do not appreciate your mom's behavior then it probably isn't a matter for the police but one you need to openly discuss with your mom. If the latter is the case, and talking to your mom about it won't help then I suggest you find a family member or a friend who will come pick you up and take you to their house when mom is partying. Good Luck and I sincerely hope that you and your mom can work this out for the sake of your relationship and the safety of you both.
2006-07-30 16:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by kls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with a relative, or a friend, someone you can truly trust?
If you are unhappy with the choice of people your mother brings home, then that is a valid concern. However, remember that you are living under your mother's roof and she might become unreasonable and angry with you.
If you have someone you can trust, I would suggest that you talk to that person (in strictest confidence). Could you possibly have a friend sleep over on an evening when your mother is going out? Having a witness or a second opinion might be valuable.
But, definitely, you have rights ... it's just that your Mom sounds like she is only thinking of herself and that she might become angry. Or, perhaps speak with your teacher in confidence. You shouldn't have to worry about these things when you have school and other things to think of.
Good luck, and I hope things work out for you. Try not to worry too much about it, OK? And maybe sometime you can write back and let us know how things turned out.
2006-07-30 16:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by LaRue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do! Yor mom's main concern should be her child and not how to score. She doesn't know these strange men, better be safe than sorry, b/c you might regret it later. If you call the cops they are going to try to get your mom's attention...and if she doesn't then I am pretty sure they are going to do something about it. Your safety is more important than your mom's drunken bf...sorry to say that. They might call social services too, to come check out the situation. Yet again I cannot stress how important your safety is first than these men. Don't be afraid, just call the cops..hope everything works out for you!
2006-07-30 16:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by Natasha B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can call the police to remove these people IF they are putting you in danger or doing something to you. It is your mother's house though and they may say they won't remove them if she doesn't want them to be removed. What you can do is go to your local department of family services and let them know what's going on in your home. You may be removed from the home--that can be either a good thing or a bad thing. Is there someone else you can live with? Some other family member that is willing to take you in may be your best option. Good luck!
2006-07-30 16:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by tkltafoya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is an ongoing problem, talk with a responsible adult. Maybe a social worker. No parent should put his or her child in that potentially dangerous situation. Your mom could get in trouble if you do this (or if you call the cops), but if you truly think you're at risk, you have every right to protect yourself. Don't be afraid.
2006-07-30 16:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by SomeoneUdunno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, No 15-year old should be exposed to that. If you feel uncomfortable about calling the cops on your mom, call Children's Aid, or Child Welfare, and they'll take it from there.
Sorry you are in a situation like this, but it's good that you are mature enough, and level headed enough to realize that it has to be stopped.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 16:27:40 · answer #11 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋