He and his buddies have been running around videotaping each other playing games with roadkill and jumping off stuff and putting fireworks in inapproriate places, I saw the video and I need to confront him.
2006-07-30 16:12:39 · 20 answers · asked by SlapADog 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sometimes you just gotta punch your kid in the mouth. Fear always works! lol just kidding. Chances are that he really doesnt want to be doing that stuff, but peer pressure is a Big problem. Talk to him about it and let him know of the consequences of his actions. Whatever you do dont make threats, that was what always drove me to do stupid stuff when i was younger. I never listened to my parents and ended up in real deep S***. But, it was my family that helped me through it. I learned that lesson of life the hardest way, I hope your kid doesnt take that route. I wish you goodluck!
2006-07-30 22:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by a_rajalonghorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you get to the fatherly, supportive, part, you'll need to sit him down and tell him if he screws around with any more ILLEGAL fireworks or other UNLAWFUL or LIFE-THREATENING acts, the camera goes away, the friends go away, his life as he knows it goes away.
I can't tell from your question whether your son (or any of the buddies) aspire to higher art with their film-making. If there's any impulse beyond breaking the spell of boredom, read on. Otherwise it's just setting the limits on life-threatening illegal hooliganism.
You could suggest that he can make better movies. You know--plot, setting, character development, camera angles,... In other words--if Quentin Tarantino were in charge of this film, would the scene end with the dead raccoon flying toward the camera with snickering off-camera teenagers? Let me rephrase that--if Brian De Palma were...? The Dardennes...? You're not against art. Some awesome cinematography has been done with hand-held cameras. Check out "Campus Movie Fest"--link below. Perhaps if you and your son viewed some of the freaky (but fun) short subjects he might become inspired. Or if this is another of your made-up questions, Spas, maybe YOU could get interested in "life outside Y!A." Best of luck!
2006-07-30 16:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by EXPO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that what he is doing is unsafe and foolish. Tell him you understand what it's like to be his age and you don't want to be a warden. Make him understand that, more than anything, you'd like to be able to relate to him as another adult but if he isn't willing to act like an adult then you have to serve as a protector. Make it clear that you aren't coming down on him because he is doing something you don't like (though you don't) but because it is dangerous and you care about his wellbeing. Let him know that no matter what his friends are doing, it would be a point of pride to know that your son is the wisest of them in letting them know tha the will not participate in their foolish and dangerous stunts (not even to hold the camera). This is behavior that may cost him friends now but will build him into a good man. Your purpose is not to make his life miserable but to guide him to be a good man of whatever sort he chooses to be. Be a guide, be a friend, be loving, be supportive. Let him speak his side, otherwise he'll feel oppressed and more rebellious.
2006-07-30 16:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by PUtuba7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If having a nice, sensible talk about how dangerous his actions are doesn't work, you could always arrange to have a meeting with your family doctor and have the doctor show him pictures of the diseases you can catch from playing with dead animals and of different types of firework injuries that occurred from kids playing around.
2006-07-30 16:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by AverageMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing to do is confescate his video camera. If it's not his you could just call him over and talk normallly with no shouting or anything, just calmy so that he would take it seriously and highly understand what you want. I hope I helped. I dont think I really did because im only 15!
2006-07-30 16:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by The Time Traveling Magician 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys will be boys. However, if the things that he is doing are dangerous, then you should talk to him. Some kids do not get a real sense of their mortality or of the consequences of their actions until they are into their 20's. Talk to him, and try to understand where he is coming from. Don't be terribly harsh, and don't yell and scream, but you have to make him understand why the things that he is doing are dangerous and what could happen to him or one of his friends if they continue...not to mention trouble with the police.
2006-07-30 16:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Oblivia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I would play the disappointed card. You didn't give the boys age but most kids really want to please their parents. If you impress how disappointed you are and how sorry you are that he would act this way, you might get results. I sure wish you the best, what you are dealing with can be very difficult.
2006-07-30 16:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am fifteen, and wish I had a camera to do the same stuff. I just moved though, so I dont have anymore of my friends to do that stuff with. Just tell him to make sure what he does isn't to dangerous or a felony.
2006-07-30 16:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there im just letting u know im 15 and i act the same way in a dif way i like doing crazy stuff also.
2006-07-30 20:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by delavan_guy_53115 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the time it took you to write this you should have already sat him down and read him the riot act, then contacted the other parents to let them know the situation.
2006-07-30 17:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋