Does it playing with the other sex consider as sex?

Question

do you consider playing with the oppisite sex genitals (fingering, blowing, etc) as sex? Not intercouse, but the other stuff?

We love each other but we dont want to do it after Marrage, and we are both wondering if it was possible we could do the other things

Answer 1

Yes, it's just not sexual intercourse...plenty of people would divorce you for such extracurricular "play"

Answer 2

yes it is still considered sex - aural sex and foreplay i think you are describing here

the danger with foreplay is that it can be extremely difficult to stop before it goes all the way.

perhaps you both need to cool things down before it goes too far.

focus on other aspects of your relationship rather than just focusing on the physical - work out one anothers tastes in food, friends, family, career choices etc etc which can be a far better indicator of what a potential marriage can hold for you both than in just the physical.

Also i am not sure how old you are but if you are thinking of marriage together then perhaps bring forward the date if you can?

Answer 3

if you do the other stuff it usually will lead to sex unless you've got ridiculous self control

Answer 4

well, it depends on why you're waiting. i think if you're waiting because of religious reasons, then i think playing counts. but if you're waiting for other reasons, i dont think it is. just wait and take things slow!