am a 30 somthing, My last girlfriend was 21 and she drove me nutz. It didn't last long. I have a friend through work that has been a great friend for the past few years. she is a 40 somthing but very beautiful on the level of the hottest woman i know. We have tons in common and we get along great. I have been dating her for most of the summer. But I don't have clue what is going on behind her big beautiful eye's. We do everything together but i am affraid that she will kick my *** if I try to get more involved. I haven't dated a girl within 14 years of her age and she is what i have been missing. she calls me her very good friend. Should i just role and have fun or do i just need to learn a different way to win an older woman?
I should add that she went through a bad marriage and she doesn't act like a relationship is in her future, but the things she does and the way she talks to me makes me think different. am I thinking to much? or over reacting? or is she scared? or me? lol
2006-07-30 15:44:20 · 7 answers · asked by Calvin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some times she says i am to old for you. But then she is taking me places. And we carry on like we are newlt weds. I think she has a problem that I am 15 years younger than her ex husband. But then I don't know. The only thing that I have to make sure of is that i do not push her away as a friend, I can deal with not haveing an intimate relationship with her any longer but I wouldn't ever want to loose her as a friend.
2006-07-30 15:52:08 · update #1
We are actually five years apart in age.
2006-07-30 16:09:52 · update #2
Just roll with it. Women are VERY emotional creatures, and their feelings constantly change. She may suddenly come through for you one day; then maybe not. Don't rush a breakup by rushing her.
2006-07-30 15:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Av 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to make a choice. Is a shot at a relationship worth losing her as a friend? Because if the relationship doesn't work, the friendship will NEVER be the same.
Yes, she's scared. Everyone who's ever been burned before is scared, or at least reluctant, to try again. But people do it every day.
Explain it to her that she needs to get busy living or get busy dying, but hanging somewhere in the middle isn't doing either of you any favors.
Start living your life full-tilt. Show her how to do her living, instead of just nagging her about it. Become someone she can't say no to, and she'll be pushing you into a relationship, instead of the other way around.
2006-07-30 23:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I am a mature widow. When I went online to "see what's out there" I discovered quite a few younger men were interested in me. I did not respond to their attempts, because although it would be a total and exhilirating blast to date a much younger man 10 to 15 younger,
I know that if love happened, even untentionally, and we hooked up, that someday,
when I turned 60 and he was still in his 40's I'd look mighty old and wrinkley to him, and he'd regret our earlier decision. And worse, what if I became ill, and he was tied down to an old sick woman.
There are just too many problems when couples are too far apart in years.
I know of what I speak, because my late husband, that I loved dearly was older than me, and at first, while he was healthy and fun it was fine; but when he became ill, although I stayed with him for his long term illness, and remained loyal...
I have to admit, it was very painful for me, as I saw my youth dwindle away day after day, year after year
and my only alternative was to cheat or dump the man I loved. I didn't do either.
I stayed and cared for him.
And I suffered, and the days were full of longing, and the nights seemed eternal,
I don't regret what I gave up for him,
I only am remorseful of what I'll never get back, and all the fun I missed, etc.
It is not easy to be married to a person that is much older.
In later years, you won't be on the same page.
stw
;p
2006-07-30 23:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are expecting in return....
If you're looking for lovin and she is too then I guess it's cool..
If you're looking for love then you may want to go back to the playing field
Don't assume because she's older that she's mature...
I'm 24 & i seem to attract older guys in your age range because i carry myself with maturity. Unfortunately, a lot of those guys still act their shoe size which doesn't work out.
It sounds like there's a lot more to learn about her so take your time & learn about her so that you make sure your expectations are met
2006-07-30 22:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the driving me nuts, how so? I am 21 and prolly not that way so don't even. Don't assume all of us are that way! U stereotyping, not cool. A 30 y/o would know better. Huh? Yes, she's scared idiot.
2006-07-30 22:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be testing the waters, let her lead the way!
and she's probably thinking....WhooHoo!
2006-07-30 22:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be you
2006-07-30 22:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by norwood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋