i have 3 kids age differance between the oldest and the middle is 5 yrs, i think my parents favor the oldest child. my parents used to drive over an 100 miles to pick up and keep for awhile my oldest when she was just a couple of months old, even now and before the 2nd was born they would call or stop by to pick her up and do things with her or just to have her spend the night. then the 2nd came and never once did they come or ask for her, then the 3rd and still the same thing with him. my middle one is now 2 1/2 and my mom has only had her over night twice 1 was cause we had to go out of town for the night and could not find ANYONE else. the 2nd was cause i really had to talk them into it. they dont come or call or ever ask for the younger 2 but the oldest they always want her and have a fit if i say no. am i right in saying something to them about this or am i wrong. the middle child has been asking grandparents to come over but is told no not right now. but then ask for the oldest
2006-07-30 15:43:11 · 11 answers · asked by gagesixtoes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i do understand they are not as young as they were 7 yrs ago but they dont have to take them all at once or even for a long period of time but they do need to realize they have 3 not 1, yes the oldest is the 1st grand child but that still shouldent give the reason to favor
2006-07-30 15:57:57 · update #1
It is completly unfair for the grandparents to act like this. By letting them favor your daughter they are hurting all three siblings. the oldest is allowed to be singled out and made superior while the two youngest feel left out and less loved. You need to make it clear that the children come as a package deal not pick and choose.
2006-07-30 15:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by chairkiss_silver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you may feel as if they don't like the 2 younger ones as much but my question to you is your oldest is she the 1st grandchild and they may not be able to Handel the 2 younger ones as easily as they did the first and they could look at it as it would not be fair if they came and got the middle one or the younger one and didn't take them all so you have to think of it as being fair not just do they not love them as much cause i am sure they love them all the same just they don't want to play favorites to one and not the other with 5 years age difference i think i would let them know that the oldest is able to help them with the 2 younger ones good luck
2006-07-30 22:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think a person has a right to a favorit if they want to a person cant control their feelings.but they should go about it where they dont hurt other ones.maybe they are at the age where the smaller ones get on their nerves and they got attached to the oldest one.but should the oldest miss out on account of the younger ones?my mother has a favorit grandchild and it isn't my child so i ignore it.;
2006-07-30 23:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not!! They are wrong and if they can't all come then none of them come. I had the same problem with my Mom and I confronted her and told her the way it was gonna be and if she didn't like it then we didn't have to have a relationship. You have to stand up for your kids even if it is to your Mother.
2006-07-30 22:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have a chat with them but remember that if the first one is their first grandchild they are going to shower all their love on that child. I saw the same thing happening with my parents.
2006-07-30 22:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to them about this because your other children will feel left out when they get older. My brother was favored by my grandmother when i was young and i know how it feels.
2006-07-30 22:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should keep all kids at the same time and same amount of time. My grandparents have favs. and they told my brother he was their fav. before he went into heart surgery. It's not right, but it happens.
2006-07-30 22:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by sexymama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think all grandparents have their favorite. at least that is what i have seen in my life. if it is really upsetting you and your other children than maybe you should talk to your parents. they may not realize they are hurting yours and your kids feelings as much as they are.
2006-07-30 22:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You should talk to your parents - it's not fair to the kids.
2006-07-30 22:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by puma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not wrong for asking them about the hole thing i tihnk its wrong you should sit down with them and talk about face to face not over the phone....good luck
2006-07-30 23:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋