for a little over one year do i love him or is it just a fling. i think of him every day and night i pray that he is doing ok when i can't get a hold of him. when we get to talk on line we talk until he has to go to work or i have to go to school normal we talk for no less than 5 hours at a time. i wish i could see him every day but his job wont let me so i live with it. he is older than me and if my mom found out how much i would not be allowed to see him. he doesn't know that i havent' told them his true age. but he wont' stand for it.. he tells me if they say something he will just tell them that he has fallin for me. and won't let me go. please help
2006-07-30 15:36:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is only 21 and i'm 17. but to my mom that is a big diff
2006-07-30 15:40:50 · update #1
his job is a marine and the diff is 4 years
2006-07-30 15:44:47 · update #2
he is not a internet dude and he doesn't know i'm lying to my mom . if he did he would be mad
2006-07-30 15:48:23 · update #3
no he won't slept with me he said he doesn't want to it's to early and he said he will only date me when my mother and father give him blessign to date me and he didn't have a chance to met them before he left to iraq he was going to come here but they called him to florida. and i know this be cause i have talked to his mothere and father they talk to me all of the time
2006-07-30 15:51:30 · update #4
Talk with other guy and compare. Go out with guy in real life and compare. You seem to have lots more in life. Don't get struck now. Go on meet as many real people.
2006-07-30 15:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Titan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Off... you should give him some space because if he likes his job than don't expect him to feel guilty that the two of you can't spend everyday together...and I'm not saying that you are, but I've been there and now I've realized working alot and having a relationship is difficult to balance and in having to choose one over the other..........a person has to eat! and working somewhere that you like is hard to find. Enjoy your time with him.... but if it can't be everyday than so be it!
The age difference isn't very big, you only have one more year. until you don't have to worry what your mom thinks. Maybe you are in love, take it easy, so you mom doesn't catch on. Lay low for the rest of the year and protect your heart, keep a peice back in reservation incase things turn sticky!
2006-07-30 22:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by JustCurous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie u really r lost. but 1 of all no this is not a fling a fling lasts way shorter than a year. and what kind of job does he has to where u cant see him. and u should totally b honest wit him because if u dont have trust in a relationship than u dont have ne thing. and tell ur mother his true age befor she finds and u'll neva be able to see him. think about that and get ur head together gurl. love and peace
2006-07-30 22:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by 8 Months in counting mommy to be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all from experience it is hard to have a relationship with someone your parents dont approve of you end up getting torn between the two people you love the most. and it is very stressful. and if your under age and hes over if you love him you will leave him before you get him hauled off to prison if its not the case then talk to your parents and explain to them that you two are happy and they should be happy for you just take it slow let them get to know him too. your heart will let you know if its true love
2006-07-30 22:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by tabbycat02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to follow your heart. But ya gotta be careful, what if that guy's just cheating on ya? And how old are you by the way?
If your old enough, decide yourself. Do what you think is best, and take my word, men love to do this kinda thing to get a girl's attention like you. In the end, he might dump you. Well, wish you good luck!
2006-07-30 22:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♀★sMiLe☆♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're madly in love. And I hope you haven't slept with him, not should you consider until much later in life.
If you think it is true love in your heart, and he does too. Then talking is fine and waitig until you're 18 to date on a regular basis is fine.
DO NOT LET HIM OR ANYONE STAND IN THE WAY OF YOUR EDUCATION, INCLUDING COLLEGE.
With that said, I have to emphasize, if you guys are in love and he is a respectable person, he will wait for you to come of age to at least, start dating.
2006-07-30 22:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mike B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry homegirl you are just overly infatuated. He has you wrapped around his finger and as long as you are on the phone with him he knows you arent with someone else. As long as you have to lie about him he knows you will do what he says and his way. Recognize a bad relationship when you see one. He is older than you so he has experience that you dont so he is one step ahead of you...dont ge caught with the short end of the stick. Slowly leave him alone and enjoy your life! He is not the one.
2006-07-30 22:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly, men and women have been known to take advantage of those younger and naive. I think he is full of bs. The reason being that if he was an honest man he would meet your family and not pull you around. This man does not sound like he loves you but more like he is taking advantage of you. I say drop him - don't let him abuse you any further.
2006-07-30 22:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the guy? How old are you? Tell your parents and maybe they'll understand. It pays to be honest with them. If your still in high school, then dont try to rush into it. who knows you might meet other guys and you might not feel the same way anymore.
2006-07-30 22:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him. i know you prolly cant, but you need to not be with him. if your parents would disapprovve, and he is working and your in school, there is a problem there. plus, it may or may not be true love, but.... im betting on not. if you dont want to hear this, then i appologize, but i believe its the best thing. but, if you cant let go of him, just go with him hiding it from your parents until something happens, and your tragically torn apart.... just a thought.
2006-07-30 22:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋