my son is 18 months old and he is soooo mean he bites and slaps people then he'll run away laughing he loves it when he hurts people. people told me to bite him back but i can't do that. like when his cousin was crying he grabed a stick and started beating him with it. i got to get him under control but dont know how. is he to young to have ADHD or something? i need some ideas please help.
2006-07-30 14:52:59 · 16 answers · asked by josie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yeah, it's a tough problem. Don't bite him back. The best thing to do is reward good behavior. Something as little as listening or sitting quietly, playing good with other. Everything you "catch him being good, remind him that you like the way he is acting. When he does act up try to find a different activity to do, to divert his attention to something else. Good Luck!
2006-07-30 15:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The instant he acts out in a violent manner everything has to stop. If that means you are in the grocery store with a cart full of frozen food, so be it. Pick him up, walk out of the store without emotion towards him and put him into a safe time out. I know that time-outs don't solve the problem instantly, but they really do work.
He has to learn that being violent towards other people is absolutely not acceptable. His world has to stop when he does it.
Don't bite him back. That will only encourage the behavior.
Chances are he is testing his limits. My son did similar things for a while, and fortunately for us all that phase passed...not as quickly as I would have liked (say 6 months), but it did go.
Good luck. Remember to take a second for yourself before you go crazy. It is hard to be a good parent.
2006-07-30 21:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 months is way too young to have any grasp of right and wrong. Everything to him, right now, is either a fun game, or really boring.
You want to use positive reinforcement as often as possible. If he's behaving himself, say, playing peacefully by himself, compliment him on his behavior and give him lots of attention for it. In the end, he should start to strive to get attention for good things, instead of bad. It's a long road, and it won't work all the time, but until he's old enough to see what damage he does, it'll help to reduce the amount of violent acts he tries.
Good Luck!
2006-07-30 22:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to show the child that that hurts people. I would bite the child back. Not too hard just enouph to hurt a little. I would hit him back too he will learn that it isnt very nice and stop doing it. If he doesnt know that it hurts then he will continue to think its funny. I know that it sound mean to bite or hit youre child back but you need to do something so he realizes that it isnt nice to be mean to people. I had a son that usto bight and I bit him back one time and he never bit anyone again. Realy you should try it. Just dont do it too hard.
2006-07-30 22:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not to young to have ADHD, but make sure this is what he has... check with more than one doctor. Some kids are just like this. Do he watch wrestling or the power rangers, if he does you need to stop him at this age....they repeat what they see and some kids are just mean. Sometimes you must discipline them to get your points across or take that favorite toy.
2006-07-30 22:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by lil-bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The health store had DHA pills to help if you think he's hyper. It's all natural and they are just vitamins, might not hurt. Is he getting enough mommy and daddy time. Any major event change around him. Emotional trauma...a parent not involved. Other than that a time out or a good spanking might just have to do. You should seek help too if those things don't work. Remember kids don't know boundaries till we set them. I know my son will hurt his sister without realizing it.
2006-07-30 23:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by abbasgirlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some serious discipline. He needs to know it is not okay to do these things. He does not have ADHD. Watch Super Nanny and how she handles these situations.
Go to the library and check out some books on discpiline for children.
2006-07-30 21:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by UOPHXstudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to puish a child that young because they don't fully understand what they have done wrong. Your child needs to start learning empathy. If he can feel what its like when he hurts someone then he will understand. Talk to him immeadiately to tell him what he has done is wrong. Get down to his level and use short words and sentences. Above all, be patient. He needs to know that the behavior is unacceptable.
2006-07-30 21:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by flutterbyes_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew my son is 19 months and does the same thing its getting out of control.
2006-07-30 21:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by camarozsonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son definately has a problem. It might be wise to seek professional help. I see no mention of a father. Fathers or other male figure can do wonders with little boys.
2006-07-30 21:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by James S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋