First off I go to church and try to do right, now to my problem. I fell out with a friend of mine that was in church with me of 8 years, give or take some years. It is a long story but I don’t understand church. How can I go in feeling good and come out feeling mad? I am mad because of the actions/lifestyles of people. Young people sleeping around getting pregnant, getting drunk, getting high, backbiting, being two faced, criticizing everybody and then wanting to say I’ll pray for you. I am not perfect so don’t criticize me. I am a young single virgin and mad because it seems the more people I run into the more non-virgins I find, especially in church. Has anybody experienced the same thing and getting tired of church or religion in general? I thought it was supposed to be a different atmosphere than the real world.
2006-07-30 14:27:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yes I too know first hand what you are saying.....I left for a month or so to regroup and get my priorities back in line......
I came back with a determination to hear the Word of God and not to get into all of the yuck...it is so sad that it is so rampant everywhere even in the church's....so go seeking God and not for fellowship...it is hard but I am finding it easier that way...I talk to people and I'm friendly but I don't go any further right now....I just want Gods will for my life and I don't want all the yuck in my life so be separate among them......know what I mean?....
2006-07-30 14:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by shiningon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must remember people are human and do things that go against the will of God. We are all sinners and we will all keep on sinning. I know that does not sound like a Christan but that's the truth. To help you out do not judge others. Do not point a finger at others they will have to deal with their own problems and mistakes. Just look at yourself and try to improve yourself. Be there when a friend needs you no matter how bad they mess up. Pray for them cry if need be but do your best not to point a finger and get angry with all you see and hear. If you do you will grow bitter and walk away from church, your friends, and maybe even God. I have many friends some who have messed up bad. Yet I think about them, pray for them, and am still their friend. I have messed up bad in my past and yet my freinds are stil there for me as well. We are humans and we will make mistakes and we will sin. Thank goodness we can be and are forgiven.
2006-07-30 21:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by rabatvilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's where people get it wrong...it's NOT different in a church. We're all still human beings, with our human failings. I'm not defending the people who don't even try to "walk the walk", but we're not really supposed to judge what others are doing....our only concern should be keeping ourselves right with God. It has been said that "church is a hospital for sinners, not a showcase for saints". And, in my opinion, Thank God ! If everyone in there were perfect, it would be way too much pressure. I'm glad that I can be human and be welcome in a church, too. You're right though. If you expect Christians to have to be perfect, then church probably won't be satisfying to you. Keep in mind, though, if you want perfection from your fellow church goers, you'd better be prepared to be perfect yourself. Are you up to the challenge?
2006-07-30 21:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize this, churches are filled with imperfect people, not to justify or cover up their sinful behavior, but it is a reality. I would suggest that you consider going somewhere else. You did not state whether you are Catholic or Protestant, but don't give up on God or Christianity due to the actions of some people. It is about Jesus, not other people. Don't compromise yourself, you will be rewarded for your faithfulness. Look around for an assembly that is more Biblically sound and truly lives their faith. They are out there, just have to get out and look for them.
2006-07-30 21:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by BrotherMichael 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Church is for sinners as well as for saints ....
I am also frustrated with the hypocrisy of people at my church but I am not perfect and am trying to use it as a good place to practice being patient and not judging others.
If we only had "good" people going to church, what would be the point? Are you going to church to please God and worship Him or are you going to be social and catch up on the gossip?
Take a deep breath, figure our where your heart is. Make sure that you are ok with God and He is ok with you and the rest will all work itself out.
Keep breathing ... it helps :o)
2006-07-30 21:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by BigBadBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that the church is not meant to be a museum full of saints; it is a hospital for sinners. No one is perfect. I go to church to learn more about God, to praise him in a community setting, to socialize with others who share my beliefs, and to be forgiven. I try my best not to fall prey to sin, but I'm just human, and God knows that I will fail. I do agree with others who say that there are a lot of hypocrits in the church - that like to preach to others and then turn around and sin saying they'll just apologize to God later and be forgiven. But God knows me, and he knows when I am truly sorry and when I'm not - he knows that better than I do. I try not to concentrate on other people or their actions - I try to concentrate on the only thing I can change - my actions, and my relationship with God.
2006-07-30 21:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you come home feeling worse than when you went, its time to find another worship place, I found that is true almost every where, and the Organized Churches are just as bad. God is Every where if you are his Child you are the Church and a Temple of God.
2006-07-30 21:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by kritikos43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the Real world Sorry to say Reality Bites. to be blundt.
And yes I have experienced this also yet I have come to a great realization.
It does NOT MATTER what everyone else is doing in thier lives. In the long run what matters is what you are doing in your life to stay right with the Lord. True it wouild be Great to have your fellow christians all "practice what they preach" , but we are all imperfect and we will All answer to God for OUR OWN ACTIONS.
*******To put it simply what should matter is your own personal relationship with God.********
What everyone else is doing may discourage you; but you cant let it bring you down to thier level.
It obviously bothers you that others are doing such wrongs in thier lives ,and actually that should help to encourage you in realizing to yourself ,"Hey at least I'm right with the Lord".
All you can do is be a good Christian and try to help those you see slipping and encourage them to do what is right.
THAT IS WHAT JESUS DID.
Remember to always try to follow HIS example.
2006-07-30 21:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by djshyc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an new church,it sounds like you got a lot of backsliding going on, and remember to try not to Judge other people its a sin in it self,and don't worry about them you Know Christ don't you...So just keep setting a good example and they will come around in Gods time.....
2006-07-30 21:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find that in any church. Either find new friends or be a friend and try to get them on the right path. They probable go because their parents make them and they don't hear the words. God help you.
2006-07-30 23:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by flowernannap1@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋