2006-07-30 14:22:57 · 32 answers · asked by dee101 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You need a guy that you love, and who loves god. If he does not love god, or if he does but just doesn't feel like going to curch, it won't work out. Put it this way, since you have god and christ in your life, your on top of a dresser, since he doesn't he is on the ground. You will not be able to pull him up to your level, but he can pull you down super easily...
Hope that helps
2006-07-30 14:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just because he doesn't want to go to church, doesn't mean he doesn't believe. I am a strong Christian, but, lets face it - some Christians can be VERY judgemental and can make some people very uncomfortable. Find out why he doesn't want to go - perhaps he's had a bad experience at a chuch. As long as his reason for not going is not that he doesn't believe, then you have room for compromise. Maybe he would be more comfortable in a different church or maybe attending evening services. If he still doesn't want to go - go by youself! It can do nothing but make YOU stronger. Good luck!
2006-07-30 15:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by SillyJilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just love when people throw Bible verses at you rather than just answering your question?
If you force your boyfriend to do something that he is adamant about not doing, it will only cause problems. You can't just make him go to church with you. Pushing the issue will only make it more uncomfortable and make him resist more. I suggest just going on your own and if he ever begins to feel comfortable with the idea, then he will join you, but it has to be his decision.
If this is someone you plan on spending the majority of your adult life with however, it would be wise to sit and talk with him about working out a compromise. Find out why he refuses to go to church with you - if it's something personal against his religious beliefs, or something else. Mixed-faith relationships can be very difficult as these people tend to grow apart rapidly.
I am wiccan, have been my whole life. My first husband was Catholic. My second was Satanist (woah - didn't see that coming - he did not disclose that information about himself until well after we were married, he kept it very well-hidden). Neither of those worked out at all. It's best to find someone who shares your faith so that you can live together peaceably and be that support to each other in times of need, as well as having that same type of moral background as you.
Good luck to you, however it turns out :-)
2006-07-30 14:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jylsamynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible clearly says "do not be unequally yoked" That means that you do not want develop a relationship with someone who does not have the same religious values as you. Trust me; it will only cause problems on down the road. Pray for your boyfriend. First ask if he would attend some church functions(not services,but special outings) If he's willing to do that it could open up the door for him to be ministered to. If he won't do that,then you need to end the relationship. Continue to pray for him and if this is the man that God has for you then He will make a way! God Bless!
2006-07-30 14:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by biblegirl73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel you should go without your boyfriend. If you really love your church and believe in your church, sooner or later, if he really cares about you, he will want to see what this church is all about that you care about so much. I firmly believe it is wrong to push anyone into any religion. It is a personal thing between you and God. It really doesn't matter what church you go to or even if you do go to church, as long as you have a personal relationship with your God. That may come later after you visit many churches or educate yourself about religion and find a group that you feel comfortable with and who believes in the things that you believe in. He will respect you more if you don't push him. Enjoy being boyfriend and girlfriend as this is a time to learn about each other.
Sincerely and wishing you the best,
Becky W.
2006-07-30 14:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Becky W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go without him. Going to gain fellowship with people that believe the way you do matures you. Don't deprive yourself. Bible girl 73 is right. I married just such a man in '73 and "unevenly yoked" is a heavy burden to bear. If your man doesn't come around then you have a tough choice. I took the hard road and have stuck it out for 33 years. I'm not giving up but I wouldn't wish this on anybody.
2006-07-30 14:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by J Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If spirituality is important to you then don't give that up just because of him. If he really opposes to the fact that you go to church/spiritual then get rid of him.
There are many men out there that would love to go with you. Actually, some say that the best place to meet a man is at church.
2006-07-30 14:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go to church without him and he should respect your beliefs as well but you cannot force him to go either maybe there is something he does not understand about church or some other reason you may not know about but you should not sacrifice your beliefs just because he will not attend with you.
2006-07-30 14:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by bandit6464 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably not, cause the longer you go out with him the more you like him and if he is not willing to go to church with you then it is more likely that he will find things for you to do together so that you are no longer in church. Think about the consequences of going out with someone who will not go with you to church, how uncomfortable it will be to try to explain church and he not listen or understand.
2006-07-30 14:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by short 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you share the same beliefs? If your answer is "I don't know", then maybe you should try talking to him a little more. Things like that are important, you think?
If your faiths are fairly similiar, maybe you can work out a compromise.
If your faiths are RADICALLY different, you will have no common ground. Go your separate ways, and just be friends.
2006-07-30 14:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋