should i forgive my boyfriend who was talking sexually to girls on internet?

Question

i need some help!!!
i found out that my boyfriend was talking to girls on internet...he was talking sexually to them.
that was like 2 months ago. he said he was sorry and that he never cheated on me because he never touched this girls. he left to boot-camp (the army) and he has been calling me and sending me letters telling me that he is sorry, that he loves me, that i'm the love of his life and that he wants to marry me. also i found out that he was talking to his ex nothing bad but he never told me.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
since the day he left i found a good friend... he told me he likes me and that he wants to start a relationship with me, i told him i have a boyfriend but i also like him. WHAT SOULD I DO???
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Answer 1

There is no reason to settle down if there are still questions of devotion or dedication. It is too bad you have to have these thoughts while your boyfriend is in the army. He has nothing but fantanies to go on now that he is in the army - unless he is stationed someplace he can go nuts and go crazy. The internet makes people go so crazy -stupid these days. Again, it is fantasy and not reality. Important is what he does real.

Personally - Go on dates with the other person if you want. If you are not engaged you should tell the guy in the army that you need to find out if he is the one and only and the only way to do so is to choose. If you choose Vanilla without seeing what Strawberry tastes like - you are choosing for the wrong reasons. Make a decision to settle down as the right choice and not an "only choice".

Answer 2

"he said he was sorry and that he never cheated on me because he never touched this girls"? Though he didn't touch the girls, the thought is still there.

"also i found out that he was talking to his ex nothing bad but he never told me."? I guess talking to an ex is nothing wrong. Its just talking, right? At least they are still friends. You wouldn't want him to lose a friend, right? Trusting each other is one of the keys to a good relationship.

What should you do? You should think things over on who you really want to spend you life with. Don't be in a hurry. Take care and God bless ^_^

Answer 3

Sounds like you have a pre-cheater on your hands. Girl you need to get rid of him fast because what's to say he doesn't come home and tries to start something with one of these girls. I've been in that situation myself so I know. And furthermore, who's to say that he's not lying when he said he didn't do anything with these girls, I mean he didn't even tell you that he was talking to his ex....be careful very careful. You don't wanna have to keep thinking in the back of your mind what if he did do something with one of those girls, or if he's out is he with one of these girls?? As far as the other guy goes if you do dump that other loser I say go for the other guy but just take things slow.

Answer 4

Well, you're in luck; he's given you a great reason to break things off, and he will get over it quickly because he can get whatever he wants, whenever he wants it out on tour. So you should be able to make a relatively clean break of it.

That is, until he comes back from his tour of duty and starts telling your new boyfriend how he can kill him four different ways in less than six seconds. That should be a fun day.

Answer 5

I don't care if touching was not involved. He was talking dirty to other girls. That is disrespectful to you. PLUS he has been talking to his EX . If he had any true regards or a deep feeling of respect for you, he would not have been doing those things.

Look, you need to follow your heart on that one. How do you feel about it?
What's to say he is not going to turn around and break your heart later on down the road .If he is doing those sorts of things now, he will probably turn around and do it again later.

Answer 6

You don't need him. If he wants sex, what are you? Chopped liver? Hell, if he was in boot camp, there are other ways that I've heard of guys doing that does not include what he did. SO, PLEASE! Give up on him. He just wants to use you for sex until he finds someone else to use when he's done using you. Been there, but I left. Will you?

Answer 7

Why don't you tell him that his stupid sexual expressions never worked on you. so why does he think they will work on some one else? sounds to me like he's living in a stupid freaking fantasy world and needs to come down off his silly little pink pillow in the sky and tend to the needs of the woman he has at home. before he finds himself a lone and beating off in the bathroom again just like he did all his life prior to finding you.Candy a_s basturd.

Answer 8

i know u don't want to hear this but u made a mistake by telling that guy u like him....this is my opinion but i think u should forgive your boyfriend and see how things work out, if he does it again, that's whn u should start to wonder about braking up with him...it truly matters who you would be more happy with but i think u should give it another try with your boyfriend,after all there's no going bacvk if u brake up with him but the new guy might still want u if u ever brake up with you boyfriend....hope this helps!!

Answer 9

Forgive him, YES!

Forget it, NO!!! Get out of this relationship now. If he's willing to cheat online, he's willing to cheat in person.

Answer 10

sounds like you got a winner there.it isn't the fact that he talked sexually to them it is that he thinks it is ok.i wonder what other sick things he is doing online.no wonder why he joined the army.so he can be with the rest of the freaks.