my ex wants me back. and i don't want him back. and he's such a fragile guy that i'm afraid to say "no", i keep saying "maybe" cause i'm afraid to break him. i mean all guys put themselves up as 'tough' but i can see through this guy. the answer may seem obvious to you, but not to me..... what should i do?
2006-07-30 14:10:00 · 9 answers · asked by Mafia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't let him trample you like that. Whether he's fragile or just pretending to be, you can't let him control your life and your decisions. It's tough, but you have to tell him firmly that you don't want to be in this relationship anymore and don't let his reaction get to you. A relationship requires two people and if one of them isn't into it, it's just not going to work. Good luck.
2006-07-30 14:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by nintendofreak91788 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you would say Yes only because you are afraid of saying No, would that be fair to you..? You don't love him yet that much to take him back. Having a relationship with someone without the essence of the relationship (which is love), it won't last long. You would be lying to him if you say you love him even if you really don't, and that would hurt even more. Just make him understand that you are not ready to get back with him. If ever both of you were destined to be together forever, one day it will really happen. Take care and God bless ^_^
2006-07-30 21:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Complicated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest so he does not waste his time or emotion. He needs to move on. I can see no benefit or right or better time to dump.....it is awful but it is better to do it than waste your life. Take him aside and say that you want to be honest with him because you care for him - not as a boyfriend but as a person. Tell him - It isn't happening - and you want him to find someone that will think as much of him as he does of her. For you it isn't right - it is not a matter of trying harder or working at it more - it is just you cannot allow him to keep going at this when it will be fruitless. Thank him for the attention and good times. Thank him for his understanding. Tell him you can work to get him other dates - because you know others that may think he is Mr right. He should see you care more about him and he should respect you more for your honesty - if not now - but someday. Hope this works.
2006-07-30 21:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop leading him on.. Say what you mean and mean what you say! So you both can get on with life.. As you said the answer is obvious.. Take care and good luck..
2006-07-30 21:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Maybe" keeps this tard like a love-sick cow following you around like you were a field of cud.
Tell the boy that you have moved on, and that he should too.
DON'T say "Let's be friends." He doesn't want to be friends, he wants to be lovers. Smooth, clean break, for his own good.
2006-07-30 21:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS obvious to me! If your answer is no, then tell him "NO!" Any thing less is just stringing him along, for the inevitable. He is stronger than you think, so tell him!
2006-07-30 21:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say no, or else you will be miserable. you broke up for a reason. yeah it's gonna break him. he'll get over it.
2006-07-30 21:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this ALL the time when I was younger - just couldn't tell them it was over!!!!!!!!!!! You just need to be honest and tell him it's over. You're not doing yourself any favors prolonging it...........
2006-07-30 21:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by Troy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing
2006-07-30 21:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by mayri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋